How do you advise someone who's dealing with a grieving person who's l!

my mom died last October from liver failure. Even now when I think of her and the thought of her not getting to know her grand-daughter make me tear up and start crying. My husband was there for me every step of the way. He left me alone when i wanted him to, but also knowing he just on the other side of the door so to speak. Its never easy to lose someone u love, especially when its a parent. This incident could be the "make it or break it" time for him and his girlfriend. Tell your brother al he has to do is be there for her, let her cry on his shoulder, if she pushes him away, he still needs to be in arms reach. If she wants to yell, scream, rant and rave at God himself for taking her dad away, let her do it, again stay there. He doesn't need to talk, just being there for her is enough. There are 5 stages of grief and knowing what they are might go along way in understanding what she is going thru.............
1. Denial and Isolation.
At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual social contacts. This stage may last a few moments, or longer.
2. Anger.
The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt (even if she's dead), or at the world, for letting it happen. He may be angry with himself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically, nothing could have stopped it.
3. Bargaining.
Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?"
4. Depression.
The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath.
5. Acceptance.
This is when the anger, sadness and mourning have tapered off. The person simply accepts the reality of the loss.
Your brother needs to step up and be a man, have patience. One day, he too will experience the loss of somebody he loves, then he will understand even more.

personal experience