How to get my mom to stop judging other people?!
Question: How to get my mom to stop judging other people?
I hate it. My mom judges other people based on whatever. Here are just a few examples:
We were out to dinner tonight, my mom, dad, brother, and I and there was a pretty large woman sitting at a table with a large man. We were sitting in the balcony and they were on the ground floor. My mom kept starring at her and she made a comment like, "She should be on the 'Biggest Loser'." I told her she shouldn't keep staring at her and so did my dad, but she didn't.
We live in an Orthodox Jewish/African American populated neighborhood. We live more with the blacks then the Jews. We're also Jewish but not Orthodox. When we see the Jews walking to Temple on Saturday mornings, my mom will say "There go the hoya-moyas going to Temple!" I don't know how to spell it, but it's a derogatory term towards Jews. I don't know WHY IN THE HELL she says it because WE'RE. ALSO. JEWISH.
The biggest thing I can't STAND that she does it that when we see a black person on the street, and they're walking across the street when cars are coming, which most poeple sometimes do, she will say they're uneducated and probably on drugs or something stupid like that. I tell her they could be in college or high school or have a job! Also one time, we were driving home and there was a funeral procession and all these cars were turning into the funeral home and some people had some really nice cars and she said that the person who died must have been a "drug dealer" and so were the other people driving the cars! I told her maybe he/she was rich or had a good paying job!
I don't know why she feels the need to JUDGE everyone! I hate it when she does that! How can I get her to stop judging other people, especially people she doesn't even know? Thank you!!!
We were out to dinner tonight, my mom, dad, brother, and I and there was a pretty large woman sitting at a table with a large man. We were sitting in the balcony and they were on the ground floor. My mom kept starring at her and she made a comment like, "She should be on the 'Biggest Loser'." I told her she shouldn't keep staring at her and so did my dad, but she didn't.
We live in an Orthodox Jewish/African American populated neighborhood. We live more with the blacks then the Jews. We're also Jewish but not Orthodox. When we see the Jews walking to Temple on Saturday mornings, my mom will say "There go the hoya-moyas going to Temple!" I don't know how to spell it, but it's a derogatory term towards Jews. I don't know WHY IN THE HELL she says it because WE'RE. ALSO. JEWISH.
The biggest thing I can't STAND that she does it that when we see a black person on the street, and they're walking across the street when cars are coming, which most poeple sometimes do, she will say they're uneducated and probably on drugs or something stupid like that. I tell her they could be in college or high school or have a job! Also one time, we were driving home and there was a funeral procession and all these cars were turning into the funeral home and some people had some really nice cars and she said that the person who died must have been a "drug dealer" and so were the other people driving the cars! I told her maybe he/she was rich or had a good paying job!
I don't know why she feels the need to JUDGE everyone! I hate it when she does that! How can I get her to stop judging other people, especially people she doesn't even know? Thank you!!!
Answers:
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I think your mom is angry that she herself didn't do better socially. All the people in the neighborhood remind her that she is not living in manhattan and it bothers her.
So she says these things to feel different from them. It's very sad, really.
Just be you and be happy. Realize that your mom is very lonely for something she cant have.
Trust me, when you get older, you'll hear the whole story.....