My anxiety is only high in school? School phobia please help going to school eve!

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First and foremost, I felt a very similar pain that you are experiencing. I was shy and awkward without many friends. I was picked on for my size and lack of social skills. I left depressed at times and felt anxiety every time I attend school. I felt embarrassed and ashamed when I had no one to seat to during lunch time. I felt hopeless!

But one solace that helped me to get through high school was the hope of getting into a university, away from all that negativity.

Once I graduated High School and arrived at college, everything changed for the better. The environment and more chill. No random person made fun of you or gave me dirty looks.

All I have to say is look forward for the future. You may not think that there is a better tomorrow, but there is. Once high school ends, its clear sailing, the judging stops, the popularity contest stops, the ridicules stop, everyone is more chill outside of high school. How do i know, I am living proof! College contains such a large number of students that it is dissolves the number of incidents and it weeds out the immature people. Those that taunt and tease you will be left to do minimum wage jobs while you go on to have a fulfilling life through higher education.

College taught me that it was okay to seat alone while eating, it taught me that you dont necessarily have to socialize with people in class. The whole high school popularity thing and fitting in perception is irrelevant.

In college you dont have to impress anyone. no one will mess with you when you seat alone to eat lunch, its actually quite normal.

you may not understand it now, but high school will be a distant memory when you move on to college

the thought about attending college saved me in high school and hopefully that can be your outlet



How do I know you ask, I felt like an outcast when I was in high

med school

Let me say this, there are assholes in every school u go to. The thing about them as that they make fun of and judge others because they are afraid that is what others are doing to them. The next thing i want to say is that u are only as ugly as u feel. I don't care what anyone says on this planet or anywhere in space, only u can say if u r ugly or not. Do you see all those idiots in hollywood having every kind of surgery trying to live up to the beauty on the outside. All those "hot chicks" in school are only picked by guys who want to get in their pants and like the way they look on the outside. Bet they dump them when they find out they want to be a doctor or refuse to have sex. Look, high school is just another place in the world where looks are all the rage. But does a college professor care if ur cute, does a patient think ur cute when they dieing, does ur boss care how pretty u r if they hand u a pink slip? Nope. Don't let people judge u because what they think won't get u where u want to b, only u can do that. When u feel anxious at school think of something that u love or a song u like, distract urself. If someone says something about u try to think of something positive. For example, if someone calls u ugly just think... ur nose doesn't go with ur face but did i tell the world? The best way to annoy an asshole is to not give them ur attention or just be nice to them. I know what people say hurts but don't let them stop u from being who u want to b. U have a unique personality and b happy with it. Hope this helps.

I didn't fit in.

Look, you are not alone. So many kids feel the same way you do. Going to online school or homeschool will not solve your problems. It will probably make you more antisocial and outcast. Anxiety is a medical problem. I have it too. I didn't get help until I was 18. If it is this bad for you, you need to see a doctor. I wouldn't go to the school nurse, go to your real doctor. Honestly, I know how you feel. It won't be fun going to the doctor either and telling them all of these things but you have to do it for your own sanity. They will prescribe your something to take the edge off. Tell them you have "panic attacks" because that is what it sounds like to me (I'm not a doctor). They will help you. But you need to stay in school. However horrible it is, you need to get a good "real" education.

Also, you don't have to be friends with those people. Just keep to yourself, stay under the radar and you'll be fine.

you think more about those people than those people think about you. it's obvious to them that you dont want to talk to them becuase you do not want to be rejected, you are insecure and have low self confidence. and it shows.

and that turns people off. caring about what others think all the time is a turn off. just be you and do you. stop showing that you care so much abotu what others think and dont give a crap. when you are fine being alone more people will be attracted to you. just dont let your negative emotions rise above your skin. keep it inside. learn to not care, focus on other important things.

i was once the same way and started not caring. things are way better for me.

ask teacher to move you as with everyone looking at you its hard to concentrate

for anxiety breathe deep and slow, let go of excess tension in your muscles and relax

you are only being teased so tease them back, thats what they want, they just want some social interaction so smile and say hello
ignore heart hammering, dont monitor it and the hammering will eventually stop
remember, deep slow breathing will relax you, try it now