My life is turning to crap, I need advice?!
Question: My life is turning to crap, I need advice?
Ok well I am looking for some advice on what to do right now.
Here is what is going on in my life:
- I am a competitive swimmer and have nationals in 6 weeks. I recently had to stop training for two weeks because (sorry for guys reading this) I stopped having my period. I have gone back to training this last week and it is about a million times harder than it ever has been. I got back from a run today, my coach was like 'how was it' and I just burst into tears because I am so mentally and physically exhausted.
- My cousin is suicidal, and has attempted suicide twice in the space of a month. Pretty self-explanatory as to why I am stressed over this. My family in general is very dysfunctional, my mother and I are constantly at each others throats.
- I have a very over-protective ex boyfriend who wont stop stalking me.
So anyway, my point is, how do I deal with this? Also how do I tell my swim coach that I'm not just unfit, but i'm physically and emotionally not coping? I need to tell him this in a way that he wont be like 'ok, we'll have to take you out of nationals then, if its causing you that much stress'
Any advice is very welcome! xx
Answers:
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1) Advise you cousin to see a psychiatrist
2) Drop your ego and make up with your mum .
3) Tell your boyfriend you need personal space or Worse case scenerio break up
4) You should be feeling alot better now
5) Focus on swimming and with the god dang competition.
find a therapist to help you cope with these issues. Sometimes friends cant do as much as a professional can to sort through your feelings. Good Luck Honey! Life is rough! If you dont want to be taken out and it will only cause you more stress, try to keep it cool and just say that you've been having a hard time :)
First off, decide that you are a survivor. you do not have to give in to stress or depression. take care of your health. swim away your stress instead of swimming into it. physical exertion lowers chemical build up that is caused by stress, worry and fear. by the way, stress & improper nutrition are 2 common causes of cycle changes in girls. make sure you eat well & get some water in you as well sometimes. its good for you. if you can get the privacy, vent your frustrations on paper if you need to, then destroy it. or just make circles to represent each frustration, name it & x it out, just to get it out. be good to yourself & it may be hard but try to keep in mind your mom has trouble & stress too the next time you start to get on each other. hopefully the ex will back off as he sees you getting by if you show him a strong face even when you don't feel it. try relaxing to some uplifting music to recoup when it all feels like too much. best of luck in your swim competition & in swimming through this whole growing up thing. start by giving yourself a small pat on the back for trying so hard. you are one ok gal. with determination, you will come out ok.
Sounds like you need to talk to a counselor and get a restraining order against your bf (god I HATE people that don't know when to let things go).
And as for your cousin, I know you dont want to hear this but you shouldnt stress yourself over him too much, sounds like you have enough things on your own plate without having to take more from others. If someone wants to kill themselves theyre gonna do it no one can stop them. Maybe put him on a 5150 but if he has already been through that and has been prescribed meds and hes still suicidal then Im afraid it doesnt look too good for him, you can go ahead and try to worry and stress over him and talk to him (obviously you will since he/she is your cousin and thats what family is) but simply put there is not much use wasting your energy and life away trying to save someone that doesnt want to be saved.
As for your family, lol most peoples families are dysfunctional hell I have stitches in my hand because my bastard father tried stab me today. So get over that the good news is all you have to do is move out and problem solved.
You really need to talk to a counselor though I only have that paragraph you wrote to work with.
So:
- About your period I honestly have no idea what to say on that
- Get a restraining order against ur bf or get a man that will protect you.
- Try to help your cousin but dont waste your energy too much on him, like I said you cannot save someone who doesnt want to be saved. Me saying that might make you angry because he/she is your family but thats how it is.
Focus on whats important in your life and that seems to be swimming so do that, take it easy if you need to, like I said I dont know how not having your period affects your physical performance but if you need to, take it easy.
And just tell your coach that youre having a rough time and you just need to take it easy for a few weeks. Dont just walk up to him and open up the tear floodgates though be calm.
Like I said though a counselor will be able to help you much much more than anyone on here.