ugh, i hate school life with a passion?!
Question: Ugh, i hate school life with a passion?
When i'm with a group with no more than 6 people; i'm extremely loud and outgoing.
when I get into the class room, KAAABOOOOOOOOOOM, i change into a whole new person; quiet, nervous and the type of person that would do anything to avoid being the center of attention.
I feel like i can't talk to anyone, as i'm known as 'the quiet one' i feel like i have to fit that stereotype - i can't just suddenly go all loud and talkative all of a sudden - they're gonna think i'm weird.
or like, why are you talking? you're meant to be quiet.
i know its stupid. but i can't help it. okay. no matter how hard i try.
i have the urge to join into hot conversations; but i can't. because i'm known as 'quiet' - i feel like i have to fit that stereotype.
wth is wrong with me? -___________-
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It sounds like you may be developing Autism. To be more specific, you could be developing a form of Asperger's Syndrome. In short, Asperger's Syndrome is a sub-form of Autism that negatively affects social interactions. Asperger's Syndrome can appear at any point in time during a person's life. All it needs is a trigger (such as a traumatic experience or an increase in stress) to take effect. I bet that you experienced some sort of traumatic, stressful, or overwhelming experience lately that may have caused your shyness to turn into something much more serious. This happened to me. A couple of years ago, my grandmother died and I was in the hospital room when she passed. That took a toll on me emotionally and, a year or so later, I began to develop social problems, obsessions, and depression. Turns out, this traumatic experience triggered my OCD, Depression, and Asperger's Syndrome. Maybe something in your life is doing the same.
With that said, you should see a therapist. It's so important for you to get help for this. Therapists can help (even if they don't seem like they can at first). It took me a while before I finally got comfortable seeing a therapist. Whatever you do, don't let this go untreated. In sever cases, people with Asperger's Syndrome aren't able to leave the confines of their home for fear of the outside.
So, if you truly want to get better, get help. I did, and I'll never look back.
I really hope this helps and good luck.
You're not alone. Trust me, I thought I was at one point.
God Bless.
The problem is you are a teenager and you feel the need to fit in. You were taught to be good/ quiet in class and outside the classroom you are a fun , outgoing person. You need to give yourself permission to merge yourself into the person you want to be. A balance of quiet and respectful and fun and outgoing. You can be both.. just let yourself. I know it is hard not to worry about what others think but it is making you miserable. So be the person you want to and forget what others " might" think.
Rn, mom, former teenager
You basically just described me. I am exactly the same, I just plan to stick on out secondary school then be the real me at college (Even if that means faking to feeling of been outgoing at first). As I know, I am actually pretty outgoing, but in the classroom I naturally close up a bit at first, then when I have to confidence I feel shy as I now fit under the title of 'quiet' and 'shy'.
Just gotta stick it out, and learn from my mistakes I decided upon.
Me.
You need to come out of your shell when you're not around friends ECT. You shouldn't feel nervous about being around lot's of people. If anything, you should feel less nervous about it. If you're around lot's of people, there's more of a chance that there's someone there that feels like you do. I sometimes feel like I hate life with a passion too, but I know I really don't There is nothing necessarily wrong with you, you just seem to have a bit of social anxiety. It should get better with practice. Face your fears, and it will get better.