Help with emotional abuse...?!
Question: Help with emotional abuse...?
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Its a power struggle. Some people feel like they have to be in control because they themselves realize no one would be around them if they didn't have to be. She doesn't want to be alone. There is only one way out of this. You need to go to a womens shelter. Escape and don't go back. Once your there they will help you get on your feet by section 8 HUD housing, acquiring a job, and other necessities.
I personally don't agree with all these government support programs that are constantly abused but your situation is one of the few when I agree it is needed.
You will never be able to better yourself in that environment because it wont be allowed due to the control that would have to be given up. Its also a terrible environment for your daughter.
Be one of the few people who use these government programs correctly. Womens shelters are generally run by churches or non profit organizations. Find one, pack your stuff and go. They can help you from there.
This is absolutely insane and I am so sorry you have to go through this. Your mother is the reason you have not been able to accomplish anything. You cannot be in that environment, and you need to get your daughter out of there asap. You need help.
Try getting in touch with any family right now that is willing to take you in, and if they do take you in asap you gotta get a job. You need to start getting on your own feet for your daughters sake, and I know you can do it.
If not, get a phone number for a social worker, just google a social worker in your area. Tell them your situation and they may be able to help you. See if you can get welfare for now. Tell them about your mother and how shes treating you and locking you in because she is the sole reason why your in the situation you are in.
Also, look into wic. http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic/
they are the Womans, Infants, and Childrens group. I am almost 100% positive you will be able to get a little help from them. At the very least they will prove you with food for your daughter. Just a recommendation though, when they give you the money you can only buy certain things with it, and you can only go to certain stores too i believe so once you go to the office ask where theres an official wic store. At those places things are wayyyy cheaper so you can get more and the people working there are familiar with the system and everything in the store is up for use from the money amount they give you.
PLease do these things, you need to for your self and your daughter.
As for your mother, talk to her. Tell her, how do you expect me to do anything if you wont let me? tell her you arent going to let her treat you like that anymore tell her your going to get a job whether or not she likes it. And what about your dad? does he treat you like that too? if not, talk to him too. Tell him what your going through and how you want to start to get on your own two feet.
i wish you and your daughter all the best. good luck :)
and remember, things will get better, you WILL get out of that situation and you will provide eventually for your daughter. Life will get better the moment you start to take control.
If you want control of your life, then take it. If you want away from the abuse, then move. No one says you have to live in a luxury apartment. I rented a room in various houses/apartments until I got financially stable. The problem is that you are not mature enough to have learned that life has trade-offs and sacrifices. If you want shoes, you have to pay money. If you want independence, you have to get a job. If getting a job means getting an education, then get an education. You are old enough to understand this connection. For some reason you think you can eat your cake and have it, too. Life can be hard and until you make some of those sacrifices, you won't get what you want. I applaud your Mom for giving you a safe place to stay. I disagree with the name-calling and if it were me, I'd be out the door if I had to stay on someone's couch. But even that someone will eventually want you to chip in for food and bills. Up to now, you've had a free ride and you're complaining. Grow up.