Question:
Im in love with my best friends wife & we have been close for years! Advice?
Im 26 and have been friends with this certain guy for almost 10yrs, he is 25 and has been married to one of my best friends for 3yrs, He is 33 and owns his own business. Six years ago i brought her & her friends into his studio and as soon as they met they were attracted to each other and it killed me, I hated the idea of her being with someone other than me as i had fallen in love with her, The day i planned to tell her how i felt about her she told me really excited that they had started dating & that she was really happy so i didn't want to ruin anything for her. Im still in love with her and i travel alot so when i go to her husbands tattoo studio i usually see her or if her husband has friends over at their place and she isn't there i miss her like crazy & keep hoping for her to walk through the door. Her husband drinks alot and lives a very wild life but he is very protective and touchy feely with her. She is the most beautiful woman i have ever seen and we have always been really close, She invites me to lunch with her when shes working which her hubby doesn't mind as we are all friends, But we have the best time together and she talks to me about everything, how unhappy she is at times when she feels her husband is being to possessive with her, how he drives her crazy at times & tells me that im the easiest person she can talk to and that he loves me, which kills me cause i know she means as friends. Her husband is South African & if you didn't know him he is very intimidating, stand-offish, He also got her to tattoo her name on his leg. Im crazy in love with her and its killing me, How do i handle this?
Answers:
You need to seek out the services that a therapist would be able to provide. You are not going to be able to handle it without the help of a therapist. You need to have someone in which you can confide in as far as it comes to dealing with this awkward situation that now currently exists.
You may be the easiest person she has to talk to besides that of her husband. This is a great compliment, but one that causes a very difficult situation to exist.
It might be helpful to your own sanity that you avoid her altogether and just have contact with her husband.
It is not healthy for you to be "in love with her." Do seek out the services that a mental health professional can provide as soon as possible before a very ugly situation does come to be.
Stay away from her!