Going into therapy from Self-Harm, help?!

Don't tell anyone, not your parents of friends or nothing. Just if you do it often then you should consider the consequences and face the music. I have done it before, im 14 male. It it is very often that girls do it, but girls usually discuss their problems to their friends or family, but boys like me i just keep the emotions bottled up inside until something horrible happens and i cut.

I ha a year but i like telling people my story and how i felt. It is quite hard to understand the feeling when you cut, it feels good as you can release your worries but then afterwards, it leaves marks and not to mention nasty infections. What ever object you used, you should make sure it is 100 per cent clean before using.

If you feel sad one time or angry, just write the problem on a piece of paper and burn it. It better as i was nervous to tell anyone.

Well hope you do't cut again and stay safe...

Thanks- Aaron x

You don't really have a clear question. To me you sound like an attention seeker. I mean, you've made two cuts and want to tell someone; you're saying you're a cutter? I've been cutting for three years, made more than one hundred cuts. I do it to feel physical pain when the emotional pain becomes too much. I think you do need to tell someone, because obviously somewhere along the line you felt you were neglected in some way.

You need to talk to someone and you need to know people will find out. Even if you keep hiding it, eventually someone will notice and since you are only 13 and it is considered self-harm, I'm pretty sure they have to report it to your parents.

As you stated, you know you are facing some issues, good first step. Now you need to take the next one where you get help to learn how to face these issues. Look at it this way, you go to school and get help from your family to learn how to eventually go out in the world on your own and take care of yourself, why wouldn't you go to someone to learn better ways of dealing with emotions?

If you want to avoid the school therapist fine, talk your parents to get you to a different counselor but go see someone who is qualified.

If you go to your school therapist, s/he will be legally obligated to inform your parents. However, you really have no other options -- if you are addicted. But, as you said, it's up to you to gauge your dependency on the coping mechanism. If you've only done it twice in one year and truly believe you won't do it again, then you're fine. Clearly you're already aware that it was unhealthy, so now you know that whenever you get the urge you can just do something else that relieves tension -- go for a run, beat a punching bag, box in thin air and pretend you're fighting someone you hate, write in a journal, etc. You're exactly right: If you're not addicted now, then you can stop. Just take control from this moment on and don't do it again.


Edit -- Also, if you've only cut twice, the scars won't last forever. Last year I cut over twenty times in the exact same place over a period of six months, and that spot is now practically clear (in the right light). Not to mention, that's on its own without oil or creams which also often help heal scars. And afterall, you said they were only scratches. To be perfectly honest, this isn't something to be so dramatic about (not trying to criticize you, just trying to calm you down). You tried it, it wasn't for you (thankfully), and now it's over. You're ok :) Remember, you're at a place where you don't need to tell anyone, so you can stop worrying about it. You're at a place where you can stop on your own without difficulty. You're lucky. Forget about this whole mess and start utilizing the other mechanisms I mentioned now since you aren't addicted.

Oh, I also just wanted to point out that there is no "type" of person who cuts -- that's a common stereotype. Approximately 1% of Americans currently utilize self-injury as a coping mechanism for emotional pain (obviously not counting the vast number of people who have yet to come forward), and that number comprises people of all ages, genders, races, musical/clothing tastes, and life struggles. Not starting an argument or anything, just pointing it out. Anyway. Good luck with everything.

Self-harmer for years, trying to quit.

please speak to your parents about this.. dont be afraid..they will listen and understand you and support you whatever your problem is. your young and still dont understand things at the moment.impulssive behaviour is normal at your age and part of growing up. Soon youl'll realizd what you.ve done to yourself . why not join a group or any activities in school? meet more friends or just spend more time with your family? or do something where you're good at...take care xxx

no one should judge youu for what you didd if youu know it was wrong< justt thought id say that first:) & be honest with your counselor & tell her you plan on telling your parents if it gets worse.. tell her youu dont know exactly how to tell them, she should help you & listen to you & not tell your parents if you ask her not too.. but every counselor is different my friend cut herself in 7th grade for the heckk of it & it ended up being a disaster, but please dont let that scare youu. i justt thought i should defend both sides.. ya know?. but i wishh you the best of luck! but the girl didnt tell her parents & had other problems!