Question:
Physiatrist needed: what can i say to my girlfriend who at times thinks life isnt worth living?
Its about my girlfriend. She is 16, going on 17 and gets uncontrollably emotional at times. Her mum and dad have split up, her nan is terminally ill, and she is basically finding life very hard at the moment. When a lot is on her mind she gets really down, and then feels as she has mistreated me and hates herself for it. This happened earlier on today, and afterward she was crying to me because she felt like she is a horrible person. She got worse and worse and when i came back from the toilet she was standing dead still holding scissors to her wrist. i took them off at her, looked at her and there was no emotion in her face what so ever. She then went into the kitchen and started taking loads of tablets out of their packets. Again i stopped her and she collapsed in tears saying "if you love me you will let me". the crying got more and more intense and then she said "i dont want to be alone any more just kill me now". this got me very emotional, and seeing me get this emotional and seemed to snap her out of the crying. she went back to sitting there still with no emotion in her face. After calming her down for a few hours i managed to get a few things out of her. she said she didnt know why she did what she did, how she felt or what she was doing. She said she was in control but had no feelings and didnt know between what was right and wrong. i then heard her talking to herself saying "i didnt think it was anything serious, until now" but when i questioned her on what she said she was reluctant to say anything. there have been times in the past where she has felt depressed and scratched her arm till it blistered, and the way she explained that was like the pain in her arm made the other pains go away. i might have been just a one off today, but im just glad i was there when it happened. I dont know what would have happened if i wasnt, and i dont really want to think about it. Is there anything i can do or say to her that might help? thanks
Answers:
First of all, you need to set up a support system for her.
It's fortunate that you were there when she needed you - but you can't be there all the time.
Find a couple of people who she trusts and tell them that she's struggling (no need to go into detail, just let them know that you're serious). There must be plenty of people in her life who would want to help if they only thought she needed it.
Try to keep her occupied - along with the support group you have established (although try not to be too obvious about your intentions - she still has pride).
And maybe once she's feeling a little more stable, try to talk to her, try to boost her confidence in herself.
If all else fails and you still believe that she is a risk to herself then you'll have to seek immediate professional help - only let's hope it doesn't come to that.
Good luck
Suffered from depression myself
Get her to call.
http://suicidehotlines.com/international…
I lost my brother to suicide.
tell her there is always someone worst then her
I probably wouldn't even stop someone from killing themselves, I'd just let them do it. She's righ, life is not worth living if you just sit on your *** all day and have no life. I've tried ending my life many times.