Is solitude okay? I love being alone...?!


Question: Is solitude okay? I love being alone...?
people have always liked me, but i have never liked people im going back 2 school next year for 10th grade ive been homeschooled for 3 now. i have a GREAT homelife and 1 best friend. my 1 best friend is sort of obsessive with me because she doesnt want to lose me and when i go back 2 school she thinks ill make a bunch of friends and leave her behind.
MY QUESTION:
when i go back to school i really dont want friends yes a "hi" to my classmates but not a sleepover texting thing. i really love to be alone and i love to read and write poetry. when i go bakc to school i do want to keep my friend but i would love to sit at lunch and read or do my homework instead of meaningless small talk. I love being alone and i think of myself as independant and confident but my confidence is not in your face like some peoples. is it okay to be a loner and learn and go to a good college with out friends. does any 1 else my age feel this way.

ps im a 14 year old girl going into highschool...

Answers:

I am also 14, and exactly the same way, you couldn't have described it any better. I used to go to a very small middle/elementary school, where I had familiar friends, but now in high school everythings different. In fact, I too just posted a question about this, but right now I am answering my own question and saying yes, of course it's okay. I think you should just be yourself, and do whatever you feel comfortable with. So far, that has worked for me, so it probably will for you too.



Yes, it's OK, of course it is. It's always OK to be who you are, but friends are good too. It's learning the balance between the two.



In my opinion, solitude is ok. People as a whole piss me off, so I try my best to avoid them.



u dont need new friend and its completly ok



Is it normal? Yes it is.
Is it a good idea? No. We NEED friends. More than just hi to classmates. Your only 14....what if you suddenly change your mind junior year, and have lost that one best friend? It's something to think about.


Friendships are medicine for our soul. I'm sure reading and writing helps! But can you get advice from a book when your bf broke up with you, after you loved him. Or if your patents divorce?

19 year old college student, who thought friends were useless in highschool. .



Well... When i was 8-12 I used to ignore friendships and play video games at home I didn't need a soul in the world. Now i play video games write stories (Fiction) And Draw. I enjoy being alone... but i also enjoy a little company every now and then. The point is you might enjoy friends sometimes. People that like the same things as you. Don't know if this will help. But you need to think about moving on and meeting new people... That's the way life is... Most jobs require you to work with others in a team.



ME TOO!! Nope, nothing wrong with a little independence. I am like you, and I prefer to keep to myself. Sadly, though, people aren't always going to leave you alone. You will have to interact with some people at times.

You won't lose your first friend, I promise. Also, make sure that she knows that if you DO find other friends that doesn't mean that you are going to abandon her. You seem like a very loyal person. I wouldn't be worried about school if I were you.

Preferring solitude is on thing, but being afraid of people is another thing entirely. If the latter is true for you, you will get lonely very quickly in public school. Just do whatever makes you comfortable for now.



When I was in high school there was this ONE girl who followed her own rules. She dressed her own way in her long skirts and tie die blouses and she never copied trends. All the girls were wearing jean skirts and keds. Not her. All of us were scrambling to be popular, fit in, be noticed. Not her. She seemed satisfied with herself, I admired her for that. It was a gift not everyone has. Being comfortable following your own path is going to take you exactly where you want to go. If you get to a point where you feel there may be a possibility you will like people, then you will. I used to read books everyday on the bus and although it was loud, it was still an escape from all their noise. Small talk has never been my thing either. Do your best, if you meet someone you like, try to be open to another good friend. There is always enough room for best friends. Just keep the original for the sleepovers and secrets. She can never lose you if you make time for her.




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