Question:
I feel like I don't fit in?
I am in 9th grade, i am self confident, don't wear make-up, get straight A's in school, and have a strong passion for animals. From 5th to 8th grade, I went to a charter school and I stayed with them same class, of only 24 people, for 4 years. I made close connections with all my classmates, and I really liked it there, I felt comfortable, and at home. Then, when I went to high school, all my friends went to completely different high schools. The people who did go to my school, were friends, but not very close friends, not people that I would have a sleepover with. I feel very different from everyone else. I don't need to have a friend at my side every second, in fact, I actually prefer to be alone. At lunch, I sit alone, and do homework, and eat my lunch. Sometimes a friend will come up to me, and I'm happy to talk for a little while, and ten they leave and I go back to doing homework. I like having a routine, of always going to the cafeteria, doing homework, then getting and eating lunch, and then finishing homework. At the beginning of the year I did hang out with my friends from elementary/middle school, but I never really enjoyed it. I always felt like an outsider, that just stood by and watched everyone else. So, is it okay to be less social than everyone else? I like hanging out with certain friends out of school, that I feel comfortable with, but I feel so much different from everyone in high school. Even the few that I think I might be able to create a friendship with, I am too shy to really pursue anything. So what should I do?
Answers:
you sound EXACTLY like me i was homeschooled for the past three years and next year in 10th grade im going back, i want to do what you do in fact like 12 minutes ago i asked a question similar to yours. i think the answer for you is YES it is ok to be a loner and maybe you should get a job someday that is very independant. read my question and you'll understand. i think we both just need to realize that we can be our own best friends. solitude IS ok, maybe its even better than solcializing. my question:
holy crap right after i wrote this i read what u wrote me we need to contact eachother i think, that was so weird!!! what a crazy thing??!!!!!! If you want to contact me my email is : soccerkid8756@yahoo.com (this is my fake email for just yahoo answers i hate soccer lol:))
Sounds like a sort of Aspergers Syndrome to me. Maybe do a few Google searches about that condition?
To be honest, you probably are different. You most likely aren't going to fit in very well. Sorry to say it, but it's true. For now, just do what you've always done, and try not to judge yourself or others to harshly.
Same thing happening with me. :)
I am the same way. I graduated HS in 2009 and even now in college I am a loner. You have to break out of your shell and talk to people.