How can I get to the root of this problem my mom is having?!
Question: How can I get to the root of this problem my mom is having?
What on earth is going on with her? She thinks the world is ganging up on her (Her exact words.) and she just stays inside all day unemployed, moping around, and drinking. She even cuts off her friends when they try to take her out for coffee or lunch. She never calls us kids and when I try to call her, she never answers the phone. I feel like I don't have a mom and I've felt this way for years. How can we fix this?
Answers:
Your mother needs help. Start the conversation on her good characteristics, this maybe hard to do given the situation. Then tell her that she deserves help because you are very concerned about her. Give some names and places that could help her. If she refuses help there is nothing that you can do about it. When she complains about things make sure you state that you understand where she is coming from. She just wants to be heard so let her know this.
The fastest way to social isolation is unemployment. She needs to work
I'm no expert but if she has a drinking problem, you and your siblings need to get together and do an intervention.
My mum is the same since her partner dropped dead infront of her 5yrs ago. She's a heavy drinker but denies it and takes all her problems out on me and my brother (I'm 22 and my bro is 33). She says she drinks because she has problems but the best come back for that is no u have problems because u drink. I'm affraid I cnt suggest any help though they have to want to help themselves and if they don't....well all you can do is persist to be a good child and continue the fone calls and visits and jus basically take whateva ur mum throws at u because if u don't n u write her off u will only regret the time uve lost in the future.
Sorry I wasn't much help x