will my mom get her self killed ?!
Question: Will my mom get her self killed ?
i had too much problems in my life because of her way treating me and dealing with my problems specially when i was a teenager, she's never understood me always violence is the answer for her..
i don't have friends and am not allowed to go out or see anybody though am 23, i thought she's over protecting me, but then when i got to medical school which was her dream when she was young, and i got it inested of her, i felt like she's kinda jealous from me, i know its really crazy and i hate to think about her this way, but she seriously hates me , always puts all her anger on me , when she's mad at dad or my older brother or the made or at her sisters or her mom , its always on me , i take all the yell and blame for nothing ... its killing me !!
and now she got out of control, doesn't stop yelling and braking stuff hurting her self when she's cleaning or cooking .. am really scared that one day she just kill her self ...
i don't know what to do and i have no one to ask for help, even my dad doesn't understand that she have issues ...
so please give me an answer, what should i do ??
Answers:
If she hurts herself again, call the police or carry her to another psychologist/psychoanalyst. But I think maybe that is just what some people do. They just get angry and need to speak with someone. I get angry sometimes and need to yell and scream. It is wrong to think your mum hates you but I understand the fact that that is just hos she behaves with you. Well, anyway, you need to sit and speak with her and tell her the impact of how she is treating you is affecting your social life. Tell her you need to open up and talk to people. If she doesn't understand, then you have to tell her how you really feel KINDLY without hurting her feelings. THOUGH I am sure she loves you; all mothers do... They just tend to get angry sometimes.
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First am sorry for this situation, you are 23 years old so you have all the rights about your independance, in another hand it's not good to bad judge your mother, she is your mom so some respect, by the way you could exist without your friends, brothers and sisters, but never without your mother. One day you could be also badly or harshly criticized by your daughter, so if you does not try to understand her, who could do it, you are part of her, 50 per cent of you is coming from her.
Be patient, you will feel happy when one day she recongnize that you have tried to help her without hurting her. She needs defenitly treatment and also some support from you( including your father and brother)
Good luck
You need to call "911" because she is definitely a threat to herself as well as to you. It sounds as if she is extremely unpredictable and you never can tell if she is going to be anything other than displaying anger.
If she is now throwing objects, it is possible that she may want to throw something at you and actually do so causing bodily injury to you or someone else in the family.
Don't waste any time in calling this number. It does not make any difference if she is a psychologist or any other profession. She is becoming a "danger to herself and others" and needs to be treated just as someone else who does not have the professional credentials that she does have.
Rony, the fact that, as you say it "I.... am not allowed to go out or see anybody though am 23" tells me that your mother has serious control issues. What does your father think of all this? You are an adult now, and as such, you are legally entitled to have friends and go out as you see fit (but please be careful not to over-do it; med school is hard and requires a LOT of work). In any case, it sounds like your mother is in serious need of psychiatric help. As for you, you may want to consider moving out on your own, if you can afford it. You may have to get a part time job, and split rent with a few roommates. Perhaps you can discuss a reduction in the room-and-board fee with the on-campus housing department of the college you are attending. Good luck to you!