how long does it take to get over being raped?!

Because it hurt you on many levels and it is hard to understand why anyone would do such a brutal act to Innocent young girl. He was a COWARD!!!!!.

And you really need to forgive yourself for believing you had anything to do with it, he was sick.
So if you can..... forgive him for abusing you, its the only way to free yourself from the pain.

You have nothing to be ashamed of you have done no wrong. But you must let go of the memory and hopefully the self harm and the depression will lift with time.

Don't keep it a secret talk talk talk and free yourself....you have nothing to fear or be ashamed off.
I wish you all the love in your recovery and may you live a good life. You truly deserve it!

itll always be a part of you.
there is point of killing... have you heard the saying what doesnt kill you makes you stronger? learn from the experience.. thats the only positive that can come from it. good luck and be strong, and im very sorry you had to go through that

There is a profound treatment for trauma that works and is accepted by the american psychological association , eft by gary craig. There is also a free self help version. or therapists for hire . It takes a fraction of the time of other 'therapies' and actually resolves and removes it.
The theories behind ptsd, are the over load and ongoing stress on the hormones of the adrenals, helps create the symptoms of ptsd.
When something is overly traumatic , a person doesn't have time to process it properly, so the mind goes into a kind of repeating loop or warp about it, bringing it up again and again until it is dealt with and healed.
There is also a healing method called emdr that is suppose to work, but I think eft is much better.

eftmastersworldwide.com eftuniverse.com

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1 Timothy Chapter 6

12. Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, whereunto thou art also called, and hast professed a good profession before many witnesses.


Matthew Chapter 18

6. BUT WHOSO SHALL OFFEND ONE THESE LITTLE ONES which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and [that] he were drowned in the depth of the sea.

9. And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast [it] from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire.


Matthew Chapter 13

41. The Son of man shall send forth his angels, and they shall gather out of his kingdom all things that offend, and them which do iniquity;

42. And shall cast them into a furnace of fire: there shall be wailing and gnashing of teeth.


Micah Chapter 2

1. WOE TO THEM that devise iniquity, and work evil upon their beds! when the morning is light, they practise it, because it is in the power of their hand.


1 Peter Chapter 4

12. Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you:

13. But rejoice, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ's sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy.


Jeremiah Chapter 17

10. I the LORD search the heart, [I] try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, [and] according to the fruit of his doings.


1 Peter Chapter 1

7. That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ:


Colossians Chapter 3

17. And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, [do] all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.


Psalms Chapter 22

1. My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me? [why art thou so] far from helping me, [and from] the words of my roaring?

2. O my God, I cry in the daytime, but thou hearest not; and in the night season, and am not silent.


Job Chapter 16

16. My face is foul with weeping, and on my eyelids [is] the shadow of death;


Psalms Chapter 31

12. I am forgotten as a dead man out of mind: I am like a broken vessel.


Psalms Chapter 27

7. Hear, O LORD, [when] I cry with my voice: have mercy also upon me, and answer me.


Psalms Chapter 22

11. Be not far from me; for trouble [is] near; for [there is] none to help.


Psalms Chapter 69

3. I am weary of my crying: my throat is dried: mine eyes fail while I wait for my God.


Psalms Chapter 18

6. In my distress I called upon the LORD, and cried unto my God: he heard my voice out of his temple, and my cry came before him, [even] into his ears.


Psalms Chapter 40

1. I waited patiently for the LORD; and he inclined unto me, and heard my cry.


Psalms Chapter 4

8. I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for thou, LORD, only makest me dwell in safety.


Psalms Chapter 3

5. I laid me down and slept; I awaked; for the LORD sustained me.


2 Timothy Chapter 4

7. I have fought a good fight, I have finished [my] course, I have kept the faith:


John Chapter 14

1. Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me.

2. In my Father's house are many mansions: if [it were] not [so], I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you.

3. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, [there] ye may be also.

4. And whither I go ye know, and the way ye know.


Ephesians Chapter 6

16. Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.

17. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:

18. Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;


2 Samuel Chapter 22

3. The God of my rock; in him will I trust: [he is] my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my high tower, and my refuge, my saviour; thou savest me from violence.

31. [As for] God, his way [is] perfect; the word of the LORD [is] tried: he [is] a buckler to all them that trust in him.


Philippians Chapter 4

13. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.


John Chapter 14

27. Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.


Matthew Chapter 28

20. Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, [even] unto the end of the world. Amen.

I strongly suspect PTSD. "The signature cluster of symptoms for PTS is the "re-experiencing" that takes the form of spontaneous repetitive flashbacks, nightmares and/or intrusive thoughts. These are not coming from the part of the brain where normal memories are stored, but are stuck in a more primitive, survival-based section of the brain, where they neither fade nor shift, but stay contemporaneous and current and terrifying. And you can't talk your way out of them with the best counselor or therapist in the world. Wrong chunk o' brain. You need imagery, hypnosis, acupoint release, energy work, etc etc. The other 2 symptom clusters of PTS - avoidance/numbness and alarm/ hypervigilance - can be symptoms of other conditions as well. But this is not so with re-experiencing". ~~~ A previous answer follows, modified for you: Go to: http://www.rapevictimadvocates.org/ & http://www.rape-victim-support.com/ & http://www.pandys.org/ & http://www.rainn.org/ & http://www.aftersilence.org & http://www.rapehelp.com/ & http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk Be aware of the possibility of developing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, as well. Flashbacks, nightmares, difficulty sleeping, and just staring blankly for long periods of time are some symptoms.

For more PTSD info, a quiz, treatments, and links, see http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_1… Read: "After Silence: Rape & My Journey Back" by Nancy Venable Raine, & "Telling: A Memoir of Rape and Recovery" by Patricia Weaver Francisco, & "Quest for Respect: A Healing Guide for Survivors of Rape" by Linda Braswell, & "Don't Move" ~ Penélope Cruz, Sergio Castellitto, Claudia Gerini, and Natalia Barcelò, & "Rape" by Marcus van Heller, from your bookstore, or Amazon.com.

Others said: just keep in mind that it is not your fault, there are just ****** up people out there. That is the only thing that can get you through. Just know that you are beautiful and you did not deserve it but to be strong and get past it, do not dwell on it. Just let it go and forgive the person, as hard as it is. That is the best advise I have. ~~~ Did you go to the police? They'll usually tell you a therapist or counselor to go to. There's something called "secondary wounding". Hope you haven't had to go thru it. It's like when you try to talk to people about it and they don't believe you or say it was your fault or say "I believe YOU believe it happened." ie..they don't believe it. Get some books from the library. Be careful about who you tell.. ~~~ Find a counselor, a support group, someone trained to assist rape victims. You're right, sometimes it's not enough just to talk about it, but if you talk about it with a counselor or someone who's trained to help rape victims or even other rape victims who have been helped by a counselor, they will know how to really hear what you are saying and they will know what to say back. Most people don't get what it means to be raped. They think it's just that someone forced sex onto you. Please, look for womens health, women's advocacy, something along those lines in your area. If you don't find what you need, I bet what you find will know where to send you.. ~~~

Being a rape survivor I found the best way to deal with it was to talk about it and to find a rape survivors group and talk to them. Most big hospitals have them and if you're in small town there are rape survivors groups on line. I know that it's hard but you have to remember that it's not your fault. The only person that's to blame is the person who perpetrated the assault. Other than the death of someone you love this might be the hardest thing that you have to deal with. I know that it's very hard but it can be done I know I've done it. Reach out for all the support that you can get and don't not talk about it. You will never forget it, but you can learn to live with it and be happy again. It will take time and energy but It can be done.

~~~ This helped me. Write a letter to the perpetrator. Start with just the facts what happened 2nd how it made you feel then last what you would like to do to him/them(you know what I mean). Put it away and take it out and read it once and awhile until it makes you so sick you can't even read it any more. It is now time to get rid of this part of you life and move on. You can get rid of it anyway you'd like. I'm going to go to the closest spot to where it happened and burn it. I think the best part of it all is when you write what you would do to them. I hope this helps and be strong. It wasn't your fault. ~~~ In your case, I recommend trying the EFT & hypnotherapy, but if insufficient, a course of EMDR therapy, probably using medication short term, as per page Q at 8m.com

Rape is a cowardly, disgusting and totally selfish thing.

Therefore you, from this point, be brave (it's already actually made you stronger); be disgusted at that filthy creature (*not* with yourself); and dig yourself out of your shell (by, for example, volunteering/working at a rape crisis centre or womens' refuge).

By helping others, by turning a negative into a positive, we can get over depression.

Do *not* let a few minutes of being in the wrong place at the wrong time ruin the millions of minutes of your full life.

I wish I could give you a hug. I wish you most well...

Life experience.