dont care about myself, help?!

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I used to be the exact same way. Start by realizing you are the #1 most important person in your life. With out you, your health, your breath, feeding yourself food that nourishes your body, you will die. Then there is no more living, thinking, or worrying at all. Only you take care of you, and you should be #1. Start asking yourself, are my needs met?...Oh, if you are like I was, you have never considered YOUR needs, and most likely have to think long and hard about what your needs could possibly be. You give yourself up for others, then it blows up in your face.

Put you first. It is not rude or selfish, everybody does it. In fact, those who don't, do not get respected. That is just life though.

How do I stop this? you ask. Take yourself to a movie, if someone calls when you have plans don't change your plans for them. Pick a restaraunt that you like. Don't go along with what others think about something...ask youself what do you think about it. Have an opinion, make sure others know than you know your opinion matters.

One interested thing that I learned, is that from childhood, I learned I was only likeable because I would do certian things like make good grades, cook dinner, keep my room clean. But interestingly enough, I learned in reality that people should be liked simply because they are human and exist on this earth. What a difference it would have been if when I was a child, I didn't have to work hard at trying to get my parents to like me. Maybe I would have thought I was likeable in my adult life. ...I don't say this out of pitty for myself, but only to use an example that may be similar to your own.

Bottom line...you are likeable, you are lovable, for just being you. You may need to get back in touch with you, figure out what it is that you like, what it is that makes you happy, what makes you feel fulfilled and joyful, but you can do it, and you will like yourself, and I found that others will even like you better.

I hope this long things served a purpose and helped you in some way.

Take good care dear, much love!!!

You have a self-esteem issue. No matter what you look like, no matter what ppl say about you, dont let the dictate who you are. because only YOU can decide who you are. My advice is to talk to your parents about how you feel or a doctor. There is help out there, you just need to take that first step.

If you bottlee thinggs up, things will get worse, trust me, if you talk to someone you trust about your problemss, you will feel 100 times better.

Good luck

Hi! Let me ask you this.. Why do think that people care about you? Its because they LOVE you! And that's something you should be doing naturally. Love yourself because if you don't then how else would you care for your self then? (make sense? )

Sounds like you have a self-esteem problem. Worrying all the time about what others think of you. I care about you :D Just try to not worry about what everyone else is thinking. Be positive!