I think my girlfriend cuts herself?!

Sounds like she is cutting herself otherwise she just would have given you an explanation as to what they are from but anyways I would sit down with her and tell her you are really worried about the cuts and you just want to help if she doesn't want to talk to you about it don't push her she probably will talk to you in her own time. Tell her that you would be willing to go with her to the school councilor if it makes her feel more comfortable or just tell her if she needs to talk about anything even if it is just to vent you're there to listen and not even talk if that will help her.

When I was confronted for SI people got frustrated and angry and upset and the aim here is to not make her feel guilty or like this isn't about her don't start sentences with - You shouldn't, It upsets me when you, and I don't like it when.... things like that will make her feel guilty and ashamed.

Just let her vent ask her maybe once a week if she won't talk to you straight away "Do you feel like talking about what happened the other day" Or depending how long ago it was just say "Hey I just want to make sure your okay do you feel like talking about anything?"

Good luck with your talking to her and remember don't push her it will only make her seclude herself from you more.

experience

You can try and be non-judgmental and supportive of her, don't force the issue. if she wants to talk, be there for her.

The best thing you can for yourself do is to keep some distance until and if she gets professional help and gets better. She has to make that decision, there is little that you can do to force her to make that decision. This is her problem, making it yours would be a mistake.

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Sit down with her (do not do this over the phone) and camly tell her how u feel about her: u care about her, u dont want anything to happen to her.
tell her u are hear to listen if she needs to talk. ask her what the cuts are. if she gets upset, just hold her and tell her she can trust u, and u just want to help.

good luck

Tell her you're not mad at her about the cuts. Tell her you're just disappointed. Tell her you know that she's going through tough times, and you're always here for her. Tell her that she can talk to you about anything. Tell her you'll understand. Tell her you're not mad at her.

Awww, you seem like a really sweet and caring boyfriend. Just tell her that you have a cousin that recently told you they're cutting themselves and ask her for the right words to say to your 'cousin'. And try to see if anything is wrong with her. Like, ask her if anythings wrong.

yea there's people that cut there because of insecurities, family problems, or something else. but u should try 2 convince her that u want to help

3-year cutter

EMOS DONT CUT!!!!!!!!!!!!! and yeah u should b worried.. try not to b pushy just make sure she knos ur there for her.

i'd wait a few days or even a week before bringing it up again, and find a time in private to talk. if i were you i wouldn't talk to her in school because that's when people like her (and me haha) have their happy face on, and talking about cutting or self-hurt could destroy the appearance that she's created for the people in your school (like you said; she usually seems really happy).

so find a time when you're hanging out outside of school and just say something like: "hey, i need to talk to you about something, ok? but just know first that i really care about you/love you and i will no matter what. you just seem kind of down lately and i'm worried about you. is everything okay?"

if there's something going on in her life that would cause her to cut, she may tell you then. if she doesn't, then just mention the cuts very gently, and always always always be accepting of anything she tells you. her main fear is probably that you won't care about her once you know. good luck.