What are the effects on someone who has been continually abused by parents throu!

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...Being abused for most of ones life can leave many, many scars, inside and out, some that we just never do completely heal from..The psychological damage of long term abuse means they first and foremost must enter therapy, probably for some time..No one just gets over something like this, ever..It needs to be talked about, healed from, (as best as one can), and then closure must be found, and this takes time, especially if the abuse has gone on for this long..They may believe they would never hurt their own children, or become as their parents, but in fact this is exactly what happens if acceptance, forgiveness and healing is not found first within their self..They can go just the opposite and become overly protective and/or smothering in love or become just like one or both of the parents, and both will have many repercussions..Statistics have shown and proven this, which you can look up for your self of course..There are very few, if any who come through something like this unscathed..The hatred that one may have for their parents alone will come out in many negative ways, and fall upon the child, which is why healing is so important..This person certainly can move out by calling a social worker or child services, and finding another home until they are old enough to live on their own, which should be done immediately...The one most important affect that this person will carry with them and which all other behaviours will stem from, is fear of abandonment..This will often cause one to seek out relationships where they will try to be the centre of someones world, smothering and mistrusting the person, wondering why the relationship never worked out..One can become promiscuous, have problems with drugs and/or alcohol, become violent or just the opposite, or passive-aggressive, and they may continue to set up scenarios with people that would allow them to continue and remain in their role as the victim..All of these behaviours/actions are a form of self abuse, continuing the punishment they may believe they deserve, and this is only a few of many other possibilities as well..Many of these behaviours are done unconsciously because the person is not aware of just how deep this type of hurt and pain goes, and in fact this or any type of abuse from a parent will and has seared the very heart & soul of any child...Fear is the core issue that must be addressed within this person..Healing is only possible if this person recognises they have issues or problems, and are willing to discuss them honestly, and deal with them professionally..They also will learn to look at their self as a survivor, and not as a victim, even though they were a victim of one of the worst abuses/crimes that any parent/person can possibly do to a child..This in fact is criminal behaviour and any parent that hurts any child needs to be prosecuted to the fullest of their laws..I hope this helps in some way and I really hope this person leaves or is removed very soon, before it is to late..Do take much care...

Depression, emotionally dependant on either themselves or others, cold towards people, anxiety, violent, Post traumatic stress disorder, disorganised attachment and dissociation are some of the effects the victim could suffer, they may also develop a variety of other psychological issues later in life.

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View: http://www.child-abuse-effects.com A previous answer follows, print for the victim: One suggestion is to write a letter, expressing how it has affected your life, and what you would like to see happen about it now, then either post it, unaddressed, or have a ceremony, and burn it safely, in a metal container, and flush the ashes down the toilet, symbolically ending the matter. Hypnosis is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which communication with your subconscious mind is facilitated. 85% of people are suggestible, to some degree, so you could preferably seek professional hypnotherapy. If not an option, hypnosisdownloads has ones on overcoming a troubled childhood & escape emotional abuse, and/or asktheinternettherapist.com has one on re-parenting your inner child, and/or instant-hypnosis.com has one on dealing with child abuse. If the above proves insufficient, I suggest that you seek psychotherapy, and a course of EMDR therapy, (* http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/q.h… ) would probably reduce the negative emotions associated with your memories of abuse to more acceptable levels - the EMDR to reduce the negative, combined with the other techniques shown may be all you need, enabling you to avoid psychotherapy (open ended; can take years, cost a small fortune, and achieve little, depending on the therapist, and client). Try the relaxation methods at http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-… or http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody… or www.wikihow.com/Meditate and/or Tai Chi, Qi Gong, or yoga.

Also page L at this site*, where there are several to choose from. Some people are still dismissive of them, but scientific testing has demonstrated conclusively that they increase activity in the left prefrontal cortex, when practised regularly, and will enable you to find a way of being; awareness, without suffering, when you need it, and is a valuable tool for helping you through the worst parts of life. Give the acupressure EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. It is free via the searchbar at ** www.mercola.com "EFT" & "EFT therapists", or www.tapping.com (13 free videos) or, if still available, the free video for PTSD at www.emofree.com Professional EFT is always preferable. - There is a version for use in public places**, (you could claim to have a headache, as you employ the acupressure massage/tapping your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind: "Even though I suffer the aftereffects of child abuse, I deeply and completely accept myself." ABUSE: See http://www.drdrew.com/ on abuse & http://www.burstingthebubble.com/ & http://www.reachout.com.au/home.asp At the end of therapy, discuss the importance of (sincere) forgiveness; to not do so is to hold onto the hurt, but you may not be ready for this step for some time.

Read: Courage to Heal by Paul Bernstein, & From Surviving to Thriving: A Therapist's Guide to Stage II Recovery for Survivors of Childhood Abuse by Mary Bratton, & Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse by Ann McMurray and Gregory Jantz, Ph.D., & Choosing Forgiveness: Your Journey to Freedom by Nancy Leigh DeMoss, & The Twelve Steps of Forgiveness by Paul Ferrini and Pia Mackenzie, & Forgiveness: How to Make Peace With Your Past and Get on With Your Life by Sidney B. Simon and Suzanne Simon, & "Forgive and Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve” by Lewis B. Smedes. Get through your fear of forgiveness, from your bookstore, or amazon.com. Also: It's Never Too Late to Be Happy!: Reparenting Yourself for Happiness (The Best Half of Life) by Muriel James.