WHAT'S WRONG WITH MY WIFE?!


Question: WHAT'S WRONG WITH MY WIFE?
I suspect my wife is cheating on my with some guy or guys online.

For years i have always been unsure about her well before the computer.

She has had a very hard abusive life before me.

Yes over the years I have been a dick and have said mean hurtful things when i was upset.

She moved in and was not sure if she wanted to sleep in my bed with me.

Then a month later she wanted to get married.

She moved in with no money, car, and her 3 boys.

Lately years later she's always on the computer and it's locked when she's not on it and has me deleted from facebook.

Here's what's troubling lately when i ask her about cheating she gets really mad and starts hitting me in my face, not good.

Lately she been bring up some girl that i hung out with before we were married 7 years, seems like she's very defensive?

Why does she go crazy on me has never acted like this?

Answers:

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Simply from the evidence that you have provided it does seem very suspicious and I it would seem that you are right to be concerned. A spouse often becomes defensive and aggressive when they are doing something that they are guilty for. Some might do anything rather than accept responsibility. They typically avoid confronting their behaviour and they may try to twist it around to make you seem to be the one that is at fault.

I hope I am wrong but it seems to me that you will do well to try and resolve this situation. You may need to think carefully about watching out for yourself as well as trying to retrieve the relationship.

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She a female. Like most females, if they want to do something then they make up reasons and scenarios to "justify" them doing it. Your wife wanted to feel somewhat safe and secure, so she married you. Now your wife wants to screw around on you, so she brings up stuff and acts a certain way to make it seem like she has the right to do that.



you are in need of marriage counseling. if she won't go with you then go alone. it will still help you. i
think that you have reason to be concerned about your wife and about your marriage.



Depends on how old she is. Could be going through some life changes. Either way, seek counsel.



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It could be that this situation has escalated and you weren't paying attention.

when my husband asks me a bunch of questions about my behaviors, it ticks me off and makes me defensive, and I am doing nothing wrong. he has baggage because his first wife was unfaithful, and sometimes this comes out by him overly questioning me, and that is extremely hurtful to me. So sometimes we get into arguments over this kind of thing. Or I'll say something like "baggage alert" to remind him that he has no cause to believe anything about me, it is the baggage from his first wife.

anyway, i agree with the other answerer who suggested marriage counseling.

she should not hit you though.

When you accuse someone they will get defensive whether they are innocent or not. also, people with an abuse history can have patholigical guilt, where they feel guilty even though they have done nothing wrong. also, snooping thru someone's computer doings and facebook stuff is like looking into a woman's purse without permission - it is a SERIOUS privacy violation. If my husband was checking up on me like that, our relationship would be in bad shape. If he didn't trust me, forget it then. That's not a worthy relationship.

anyway, i agree with the marriage counseling advice. It may be too late already.




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