How to cope with my emotions?!


Question: How to cope with my emotions?
Normally, I would say that I'm a pretty content person. I don't find my life exciting anymore, but at least I'm comfortable.

Then today I had an anxiety attack (I think)? Ive never had one before, so I don't know for sure.

It all started as a normal morning. I woke up early to work on some homework, ate breakfast, and then went on my way to school. However, the small highway I take was closed for some reason or another unexpectedly. So I got lost trying to get to school, wasted over an hour of driving, and finally decided to give up on going to class. I was so frustrated that I chose to go work out to blow off some steam. After 45 minutes of running, I went back to my car...

But then something really strange happened. I had a series of intense mood shifts. At first I was annoyed, then I became very down, and out of NOWHERE I felt this really intense anger. I slammed my car door so hard that I actually broke the handle to it... It doesn't open from the outside anymore. Then I started hyperventalating, got really light-headed, had some very depressive self-loathing thoughts, was crying hysterically, and couldn't calm myself down for over 30 minutes.

I've never seen myself as unhappy or someone with anger problems, but... I broke my car door.
I used to think I was ok, but now I feel like I have anxiety, stress, unhappiness, and some serious bottled up anger that I can't pinpoint the cause of.

What I'm trying to ask is this: how can I deal with these feelings?
Therapy is out of the question.
I don't want to talk about this with other people AT ALL, to be honest. I've always dealt with my emotions on my own, and I can't do it any other way.

How can I deal with stress, anxiety, anger, and self hatred by myself? I would love for someone to speak from experience and help me out.

I'm sorry this is so long. .___.

Answers:

Hi,

I've had the same thing happen to me- I am generally a very happy, outward person, but every now and then, I feel like nothing seems to click. There are a couple things you can do right now- first, write down any negative thoughts you have, and balance on the other side with everything that is going good and you are happy about. Realize this is a combination of things, and you are not a machine that is not programmed to be happy. People can have problems and issues, and they can have good days and bad. Let it out! Don't fixate, but admit you're stressed about something (like you have here!) and realize you're not alone- in having anger and anxiety, or in wanting to reach out. I think its one of the most honest things you can do! Just look at sites like perfectlynot.com and fmylife.com...they're there for a reason, so let it out!

A second bit that I've noticed is true for myself, and others, is that when I'm having a REALLY bad day, I try to remember the last time I ate and how much sleep I've been getting, because I know those two things to factor in HUUUGE for how I function and respond throughout the day. Make sure its nutritious, fulfilling, and is also not an addiction (which will lead to more depression).

Finally, I notice you've said you can't pinpoint what is the cause of the anger you have. Look at your life, and can you honestly say there is a point when you were happier? If not, then I think you are just having a bad day, and please see the first couple points again. If so, take some time to think about events that happened, someone you could no longer connect with, or anything you felt powerless about. Are there issues that consume your day? Don't let them have power over you! Maybe the door handle was not as it should have been. I know I've taken detours and you know what? They sucked! Maybe it was a scenic day? Take a different view on it, and it already behind you. Don't let these things bother you, just fix it, learn it, don't repeat!

Your post sounds like it comes from an honest person who doesn't want to be judged- I think you're just having an off day. Please let me know if any of this helps!

Myself



I am also the person who likes to deal with my issues on my own. Yet, experience have taught me that talking to others about your problems is very reliefing... It does not have to be a therapy session. Friends are a great source of support. In addition, relax.. Take a break.. Ask yourself what is bugging you? Then once you have idenitified the problem, ask yourself how can you best positively deal with the core? Emotions are only a reaction. Find the crux. And again, take a break from work.. go on a holiday somewhere, or find a hobby.



well it seems like its a one off experience
if it is the case i would not worry to much however if you get a lot of mood swings then see the dr

could have been related to your menstrual cycle
what happened today seems like a panic attack/have you had a lot on your mind recently?

ways to deal with intense emotions are writing poetry

art therapy
exercise
hitting a pillow or punch bag works for some

look on www.mind.org.uk
best wishes




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