Complicated question for the cutters out there, what would you do?!


Question: Complicated question for the cutters out there, what would you do?
Alright, I'm 24 and I have been cutting since I was about 13 or so. Its been a long slow process of therapy and medication. but for the most part I take my meds and only cut on a bad day maybe once every three months or so... I am starting a bit of a may/december relationship with a 55 year old man. He sensed some of my self esteem and confidence issues right aaway. He wants to help me feel better about myself. He knows I've had a messed up 10 years or so. But this is one of my first sexual relationships. I have just cut. What do I do? Do I just flat out tell him I'm a cutter and this is what I have done, and he can either wait to have sex again until its healed or he can deal with seeing it? This is all new for me... I don't know what to do

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You should just tell him otherwise he'll fear you aren't interested in him sexually or think he's bad in bed. He won't think less of you and he's bound to notice the scars sooner or later so you might as well come clean. Good luck to you with your depression and your boyfriend. =)



Him being 55 and you 24, and stating that he sees that you have issues kind of makes him seem like a predator of your weaknesses. How do you see he can help you heal, if you are still cutting yourself with him around? You should be honest with him about being a cutter, and maybe focus more on having some healthy friends to do activities with.

Really, just take care of yourself first, and don't feel dependent on someone else to fix you.



I think you should tell him, but start by saying something like
so I guess you know that I've had some issues, and I just want to be honest with you... I used to hurt myself a lot, and while I've mostly gotten over it, X happened and I really couldn't deal with it and I relapsed. I really care about you and I want this to work.

and just see where it goes from there.

Best of luck <3



ask pharmacist whether some of your meds are supposed to be taken every day and not only as needed

tell him you cut, he will find out soon enough, some cutters pretend to cut but only draw a line on skin with a red pen, works for them



good or bad the cutting is part of you if he cares for you he will want to help you and be there for you if he is against it then maybe he isn't the one for you i think anyone who cuts often or not needs some who is strong and will accept you cuts /scars and all.It's a scary time for you changes are always difficult and when you have cut for so long it is a way of dealing with things how you deal with them.Be strong and tell him i'm sure it will fine.Hope it all goes well for you and that it is the start of something good.




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