How can can I get rid of my fear of doors?!


Question: How can can I get rid of my fear of doors?
I have panic attacks when people open the doors. I had a bad experience from some ignorant lady. I though she was holding the door open for me and I don't want to explain the rest because this happened in front a large crowd of people and she was just yelling and yelling and I kept saying I am sorry like a million times and she just went off yelling at the librarians about how people were so rude now a days and didn't even try to hear me out. If I would have known she wasn't opening the door for me I wouldn't have done that. I made a mistake. It makes me so nervous 3 years later even and I have a fit! When a guy yesterday opened it for me. I looked down and opened the other door and I don't want people to think I am rude. I really have an issue with something so simple. Then I went back to my old habits of having panic attacks in the rest room because I don't want people to think oh shes rude or have an attitude. I cant avoid this at college. I see nothing wrong with the people to who do it. I want to be nice to them and smile, but I cant it's like I freeze. Sometime I will just run though the door with out a thank you and sometimes I do give them but are you opening for me or someone else. Why are you holding the door. I have anxiety's about very simple things because bad things happened in my childhood it's like Post traumatic stress disorder. I know whats wrong but I cant erase it even with medications and lord knows I don't want to be a zombie on millions of meds. I want to just hide in the restrooms and be late for class or take a long route which is long because the campus is big. I did that in high-school to cope but I feel so ashamed that it's starting to spill over again. II don't want anyone to recognize me and start looking at me different.It's not a big problem in most stores because most of the doors are automatic and not as many people are around and cluttered with traffic. I can breath.

Answers:

You have to convince yourself over and over, that was just a fluke, the world has lots of characters. Every time someone hold a door for you, pretend your someone else, like Royalty or Famous, and then thank them sincerely, use your good to make up for her being evil. It will take practice, but I hope you can get through this, most people out there really like doing little things for others, don't let some mean old lady ruin that for you and the good citizen that's holding the door just for you!



Expose yourself to doors more often and you'll soon become more comfortable.



Wow, thank you for posting your question. This really opened my mind. I'm kind of old-fashioned and I like to hold doors open for women, but occasionally I get someone who will get angry at me or just stands there. And I don't understand why... I get very frustrated. I'm just trying to be chivalrous, or gentlemanly.
This makes a lot of sense, now. I had almost given up on society and holding open doors for women. Now I kind of understand what's going on with other people.
What can I say for you? Well, I guess I'm the *exact* opposite. Once I got very drunk and made love to a doorframe, and wrote a poem about it. I have a hard time understanding your fear of doors. A doorframe is a passage... it is something beautiful.



panic attacks are just a state of mind, meaning you have conditioned your mind to react negative when exposed to this, the trick is to recondition yourself like relearning how to respond when someone opens a door, it takes time and practice but eventually you can relearn your negative response, try anticipating a happy feeling when a door opens, sounds dumb but eventually it will work




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