Neighbor boy who is 10 with ADHD?!
Question: Neighbor boy who is 10 with ADHD?
This child along with 3 other children ages 6, 5 and 4 share a property line with us. I can not even go outside without this boy coming over and continuously questioning me. It is not "what are you doing", it is the "what if" game. Not normal "what if a dog came here and bit me". But off the wall "what if I was a space man, and I found a dinosaur with a pirate that wanted to have me on a ship..." questions that you can not understand the premise and do not have a feasible answer. They also have little to no supervision most of the time. I get tired of having to monitor my own child in his own yard because this boy will not leave my son alone and gets on my sons nerves.
I get almost instantly angry when this child is around. He does not listen when you give him a directive not to do something. He does not listen when I try to tell him that I do not have a rational answer for his questions, after I have tried to answer his questions to the best of my ability. I can not spend time in my own yard because this kid hunts you down and bugs you until you go into the house. My own child who is very accepting and mild mannered, refuses to play with him as well because of his strange behavior.
What are some things I can do to get this kid to leave me alone when I am in my yard? Or at the very least get him to understand that I do not like his question game and I do not want to listen to his questions?
Answers:
I think you have to remind yourself this child is suffering from a disability and try to be a bit more patient. It does sound he is suffering from more than ADHD. Sure he doesn't understand the ramifications of his actions, but you should always try to present yourself as a responsible adult. When he is annoying you just say "Sorry but I am too busy, too tired, etc. to talk with you today ... I have come out here today because I want to be quiet and I don't feel well." Why not try to find an occasion once in a while to genuinely offer a compliment when he actually does something good or responsible. That would be more beneficial to him (and yourself) in the long run. You could always give him something simple to play with ... a paintbrush to use with water so he can draw all over the driveway in a harmless fashion may keep him occupied for a time. Your son simply has to say "I don't want to play with you" and walk away. There used to be a saying "little children, little problems." Why not count your blessings your child has not been affected by disability; ever considered how difficult it must be for his parents?
Get an ice block and throw it at his PARENT'S car
these kids just haven't been taught well enough. simply, be his parent for 2 minutes. Act like the adult and have a SERIOUS conversation. ask him to come over, squat down yourself, and talk to him. This is how kindergarten teachers do it, this is how all teachers do it. 10 and still can't understand anything? Almost hopeless. Trust me, when I was in 1st grade, the teacher getting a slight bit mad was enough to make me never do it again. Even now, I still don't call people stupid (just jokingly). But, I do call people idiots and swear at them. See the difference? I'm comfortable swearing, but not calling anything/one stupid.
This has nothing to do with ADHD and I find it appalling that a parent would have this mentality. You are to take the higher moral ground here, not the lower debased mentality that a teenager would.What this child is doing is known as, "Going Shopping",or in layman's terms he is looking for reactions and he is playing with you to such an extent that he is making you angry. This child is controlling your emotions!The fact is you are letting this occur. Put your foot down. Tell the little brat off. Be sharp with him but don't use curse words as this will make you the bad crazy parent on the block.