Why does an adult behave like an abuse victim, despite having very loving parent!


Question: Why does an adult behave like an abuse victim, despite having very loving parents?
Hi, this is about a female friend who is 30 now, single and unable to sustain relationships. Some of her behavioral traits are similar to those of abuse victims - but she has had very loving parents. She tends to avoid people, and it seems like her confidence level is gradually ebbing. She was much more outgoing in school and college, and has a lot of talents, but feels like she is worthless, cannot do anything right and just wants to be on her own, at home most of the time. I am trying to understand why she is this way and what is causing the gradual decline? I have tried talking to her, but I haven't got much except that she was in a relationship where she was let down badly, although she won't accept it, it seems like it hurt her in a very bad way. I wonder though if she should attach so much importance to a relationship. Do you think she was too protected throughout her formative years and that's why she's not able to take the ups and downs that are a part of life?

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It sounds like she is suffering Depression because of the heartache from that relationship. She most likely feels as though it is her fault that she was let down and that she let her hopes rise; she is most likely blaming herself for what happened. It's not that she was overly protected throughout her life, although that fact makes it slightly worse, but she probably keeps comparing her new relationships to that old one. She must've felt protected, safe, and at ease with her boyfriend/girlfriend that let her down and now she's very cautious when entering a new relationship. She looks for certain traits in the boyfriend/girlfriend of the current and tries to see if she can re-make the old one only WITHOUT the heartache.

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