Should i tell me best friend i self harm?!


Question: Should i tell me best friend i self harm?
so i have been self harming for about 3 months or more, not sure and i really want to tell my best friend but her ex told her about a month ago that he self harms and she didn't take it too well (in that she got really upset)... i really need to tell someone (not my mum and dad) because i really need to basically. would it be harder or as hard as it was coming out as bi? i really want to tell her and say something like 'ya'know what? i self harm' (obvs not in that way)...
how would i do it like what would i say?

Answers:

If you're hurting yourself at all, you should tell someone you trust. It doesn't have to be your best friend, but if you know how she will react, then tell her. If you don't, then tell someone whom you know will handle it calmly. I think your friend got upset because she was worried and didn't know how to react/help him.

Try making a time to sit down with her and tell her and before you tell her what you're doing, explain what's going on in your life and how you're feeling so she understands you first. Before telling her what you're doing, tell her you don't expect her to know what to say or do, and ask her not to freak out and you just want her to listen.

I would also reccomend telling someone/a friend even who knows about cutting/self harming because they know more than anything about it.

Good luck, and please get help soon! :-)



i think in the light of her ex b/f coming out and saying he harmed and she did not take it well i don't think she would be the right person to tell

you need someone professional to talk to
i don't know your age but if still at school/college you could talk to a teacher
or school counsellor
you could make an apt to see your dr also or get in touch with a teen mental health charity/helpline
but it is something that needs to be addressed

your friend might just have enough on her plate to deal with your harm as well

best wishes



To me, telling someone I cut was much harder than anything I've ever done. Even my best friend. But it's so much better to let someone know so you can talk to them. Just start out by asking her to keep a calm mind and to please try and understand. And tell her. She might get upset but try and ask her to try to understand. She's your bestfriend. Don't worry.



if you think you can trust her then go ahead and tell her. but if you think she might leave you dont because its not worth losing her friendship.

have you ever tried support sites like http://selfhelp.yuku.com it has forums on self harm, GLBT issues, and a lot more i think it could help you.

i cut so i understand what its like. im here for you.



Tell her because you need the support. 1-800-366-8288 (self injury hotline) and try the butterfly method for trying to control the behavior. (google it)



I think that you should tell her, as I am sure that she will be there for you and support you when you need her. Maybe you could try writing her a letter of you can't find the words to say it to her face. Just remember that it doesn't matter how you say it, or what you say, the most important thing is that you tell her. I had a really hard time trying to tell a friend of mine that I was suffering from anorexia, but I wish that I had done it sooner! I had nothing to worry about and I hope that it goes just as well for you as it did for me. If you need any help then feel free to message me.
Good luck, you never know, she might already have twigged that something is wrong. You are so brave for doing this!!




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