How bad do you think my social-anxiety is?!
Question: How bad do you think my social-anxiety is?
I walk funny and weird when i am around people because im self conscious and my leg keep thinking people are staring and i cant seem to control it, i walked wobbly all my life.. I walk like a Penguin...
I am speechless when others that are cooler than me are talking to me.. and i end up saying something really dumb and stupid.. that makes me want to cry about.
I am shy around my work colleague and haven't been friends with anyone or talk to them for 2 years.
I cannot keep eye contact long and tend to want to swift my eyes..
i cannot smile during a conversation because im shy.
I wouldnt want to go back to a shop if the assitent started to small talk with me.
I dont like going inside a shop if i feel the people inside the shop will start to talk to me because they look social.
I avoid going to work colleague drinks because of my last experience of awkwardly standing there doing nothing by myself.
Answers:
i use to feel that way, its really hard especially if you obsess about it. it sounds like you have a little obsession there. have you tried to work out? that helps. Honestly ive overcome any shyness through cognitive (thinking it out) you said these people are cooler than you, well how could you know that you might have more potential than any of them you just wont prove it. think it out, next time practice using logic to overcome the negative thoughts. think positive and treat the negative thoughts as a symptom of your disorder. You gotta want to overcome this too, if you really want to stop you need to go on a medication, and use the cognitive way of dealing with negativity. thats my advice.
also take baby steps, dont overwhelm yourself. make sure you set a goal and accomplish it each day. so if your goal is to talk to one person at work and you do it, by the end of the day you will feel much better and things will get easier if you expose yourself to more of what you fear.
honestly i think your social anxiety is pretty bad. I mean 2 years without talking to any1 or you can't make eye contact when you like 25 and have a job? I think you need to see a therapist becuz no offense its really bad that you can't talk to some1 and with your habits, ppl will think you have no confidence. Im sorry if what i am saying hurts, but its the truth.