Why am I afraid to ask for help?!

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You are a strong person. I know that because you have been able to post it on this site. Other people will give you medical jargon and places to go (websites, doctors, psychologists, etc). However, none of these places will give you the answers you seek. I want you to think about the people in your life that are important to you. Also, I want you to realize that you are special. People care about you because you are who you are. Talk to your family. I know it is embarassing or hard to discuss. However, the people who truly care about you will be the people who will support you always. Good luck.

I tend to think trust issues come from over thinking things. Don't think about how your parents are going to react. You know when you jump in really cold water, and you can't think about it for too long or you'll chicken out and you just have to do it? Same scenario. Throw yourself in, reduce yourself to tears in front of your parents and just go with it. The reality is, that they'll probably be shocked and want to help. Maybe you're worried about telling them, because you predict their reaction isn't what you want from them. And we go off past experiences, so you've either told your parents something like that before and didn't get the right reaction (and the worst is, that'll happen again) or you've never told them anything like that, and you're going off your friend's reactions, and you have to keep in mind, that to put it bluntly, your parents will probably be more loving, and more interested than your friends. Probably giving you more of the reaction you want?

I hope at least a snippet of that helps. :)

I try so hard to trust people to but sometimes things are to personal. I always tell my friends things even if i don't want them to know cuz they would find out anyway. I think you are afraid to ask because you don't know how things are gonna turn out. I wish i would have told someone other than my friends that i cut soner and my friends ended up tell my guidance counselor and now i feel alot better maybe talking to yours would help?

Past

That used to be me too....I went through that exact same situation. And I still have trust issues...but I've been through it, and I can say I overcame my depression. If you want to talk please contact me ASAP. I wont judge, I have no reason to. I know how hard it is...but I would love to help. I also made a blog to help teenagers that are going through depression....have a look if you want. its http://lifeoutloudinsilence.blogspot.com…
but please if you want to talk PLEASE dont hesitate...I truly just want to help because I know how much it sucks!

My past 4 years

Well age has no limits here. I am leaned on all the time but can't trust anyone either. Bad choice of who to marry the first time. Now bad choice of who I decided to finally open up and thought I could trust as a date.
The only man I know living that I can truly trust anymore is Jesus. He has never lied to me, or cheated on me or snuck around behind my back and went through my personal belongings. Or told me he was at work when he was somewhere else with someone else.
If I am not depressed I sure should be. Tell your parents, or some adult you feel will understand. Try this Christian Radio WBFJ around 12 midnight on Friday nights, they have a call in line for teens who are down, hurt, abused etc. They are very kind to the teens who call in. You can give your first name, but I don't think it is required. I think they do a great service to today's teens. My parents were great and lots of the teens when I was one, really liked my folks. No they didn't give me my way, not by a long shot, but they were good to us kids and our friends as well. Wish I could have cloned my folks for the kids who have mean or thoughtless parents. My folks are dead now so I am what is known as an adult orphan.
The guy I started dating 2 years ago had torn down the walls of distrust I had built up around me. Now he is doing all he can to make me build them back higher, thicker and wider again
I only have Jesus, everyone else is either dead or has gone the worlds way and don't want anymore to do with me. Most likely as soon as his Dad dies, he will toss me out of his dads home. I have been taking care of his Dad the last 2 years. We were supposed to date three years, but that won't happen now. He can talk about anything, but if I try to explain something "I don't need to hear that" is his answer now. He is bipolar, and I think his doctor is using his meds to control how he will treat me from Dr Visit to Dr Visit.
Check the radio station out or check out this church on line. www.the bridge.com you can find them on You Tube too.
You can click on my avatar and leave me a message if any of this helped you. I sure hope I have given you some hope. At present I am being cussed out by my daughter, Her dad turned against me by threatening to kill me if she had anything much to do with me. So now if she gets in touch it is only to upset me..... hey she gets it all if I die and her dad don't spend all his $$$ before he dies from cheating on me and catching all sorts of diseases. Thank God I was smart enough to stay away from him when he first started acting nutty. I have no problems there.
I wish you well, and if you are in church ask the elders there to anoint your forehead with oil and pray for the depression to leave you. I used to have anxiety attacks and I went to my church elders and after they prayed for me I never had another one since.
You take care, and I hope IF I hear from you that you are free of depression and happy and can at least trust Jesus. He Never Lies to anyone.