How do I help my depression?!


Question: How do I help my depression?
I'm a teenage girl.
I used to be a gymnast and do well in school, grades are very important to my parents. i moved to asia when i was in 5th grade and moved back to america in 7th grade, which was hard for me because i knew everyone but they had changed.
This year I went into 9th grade ready for a new start. That never happened. My math grades started dropping to the C's and gained 15 pounds in under 2 months which is very strange because I am always fit, even when i wasn't doing a sport.

Guys tell me that I'm beautiful but I don't see it, and I used to be the nicest person to everyone but lately I've become really mean towards others including my sister and my best friends. I feel awkward when i talk to adults and kids i don't know very well, which is not like me at all, I am usually very outgoing, and polite. I don't know what is happening. I have become selfish and not that fun to be around, and when i see that i am boring people, i become weird and loud and make a fool out of myself, it's horrible. I cry almost every night. Even my best friend had never seen me cry until last month.

I am NOT suicidal, i just feel like giving up. Giving up in my sense is watching TV all day only to stop to go and eat something, I don't even like going on Facebook anymore because there are people who can talk to me on chat. I can't look at pictures of me because I'm so ugly and i fixate on my nose and tell my friends i need a nose job because it's so big, they think I'm crazy. I don't know what to do because my parents don't seem like they care, i have tried talking to them numerous times but they don't seem to listen. when my dad asked me why I'm doing so poorly in math i told him that I feel useless, he said I was looking for excuses. My mom saw and tried to put my on depression pills until my dad found out, he got mad because he doesn't believe in that kind of treatment,but what kind of treatment does he believe in then?

This may seem normal for a teenage girl to have 5 boyfriends in one year, but it's not for me. I'm not ready for a boyfriend and I know that but for some reason i can't say no when they ask me. I mean I have to a few but not enough. More than half i didn't like. It hasn't gotten to the point of sexual things , and i know it won't. But i believe this has something to do with my depression.

One more thing, when I am at school I seem happy to others, overly happy sometimes but inside I just want to be liked and acting sad doesn't help that. When I go home I become sad again and lock myself up in my room, I wish i didn't but i do. Playing my guitar is the only thing that helps.

I am not trying to get sympathy, i just want help with it, and if you guys have any suggestions on how to talk with my parents i would love that. If this is answered, i hope that others who feel this way will also have a sense of help and closure.

Answers:

jhjfajhah omg you need to stop girl! lol *hands cookie* you are probably very pretty and don't even need to stress about your looks! but don't worry though i understand exactly how you feel though i went through the same thing that you went through except worse b/c i had tons of things going on and actually wass suicidal which i wont tell you about b/c i don't want to freak you out u.u and no one even knew about it i used to act all smiley when family and friends where around but then i got to school and i just felt so awkward and alone and i had friends that i talked too but i just felt like crying sometimes for no particular reason it was just a horrible feeling to go through alone and my parents used to brush it off as me being lazy sleeping all the time and wanting to do nothing but sit in my room all day reading and listening to music when they never bothered to ask if i was okay or what was the reason i was like that cause there isss a reason but now im 16 and i just woke up and realized wow this s**** and i need to do something with my life b/c no one is going to help me except for myself so i started doing things to make me feel better about myself like working out or just fast walking around my neighborhood for a couple of minutes (you should really try it! it makes you feel good about yourself when your done) and doing other things like trying to get myself motivated and active like im joining a volunteer program that involves helping others and taking music lesson too trying to keep busy theres allot of things you could do so basically you need to find something that interests you i know that's hard b/c you feel this way but i really hope you get help soon or find things you wanna do and then try really hard to do it b/c you cant be stuck being sad forever and if you cant find anything you want to do just really try to convince your parents you need help maybe instead of pills ask them to maybe take you to therapy if you would like to go (its not as bad and scary as it seems sure its awqward at first but after like 2 minutes they make you feel comfortable) but it helps to tell someone how you really feel and you just vent to them and they give you good advice about what you should do...trust me you can get better and will! you just have to want to get better so good luck!! :)



If you are overhappy then something is wrong. You are sad. Get a doctor's opinion.



Try playing some of your favorite music. Red Jumpsuit Apperatis really helped me!
Also get involved in art. It can be singing, dancing, sketching, anything to get your mind off sadness.
Try new things! Express yourself whenever you feel right!
Get intrested in the community! Help out at shelters, orphanges or even old folks centers!
Most of all, point out the good things in life. Your hair looked Tots Fab that day! Your bf broke up with u; so what, he was cheating anyways!
Have fun, and BE YOURSELF!



View http://www.womentowomen.com/assessments/hormonalhealth/b/default.aspx & http://www.typeofdepression.org/Cause-Of-Depression.htm & * http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_27.html (except male depression) and page b about depression. A number of books are shown: I can personally recommend reading the chapter by Dr. Hyla Cass - See: "NATURAL HEALING FOR DEPRESSION" - Stroehecker - (about NATURAL HORMONE TREATMENT) provided the best overview of hormonal imbalances in females that I have encountered in decades. Also consider: Eight Weeks to Vibrant Health: A Take Charge Plan for Women to Correct Imbalances, Reclaim Energy and Restore Well-Being by Hyla Cass MD and Kathleen Barnes, & Natural Prescriptions for Women: What to Do-- And When to Do It-- To Solve More Than 100 Female Health Problems-- Without Drugs by Susan Berg and The Editors of Prevention Health Books, & Depression-Free, Naturally: 7 Weeks to Eliminating Anxiety, Despair, Fatigue, and Anger from Your Life (Paperback) by Joan Mathews Larson, & Healing Depression & Bipolar Disorder Without Drugs (Paperback) by Gracelyn Guyol, from your bookstore, Amazon.com or BarnesAndNoble.com Girls could benefit by maintaining a daily journal, and mood chart, (rating out of 10) and seeing if they can correlate it with their menstrual cycle. If so, take the quiz on page R, at 8m.com about PMS/PMDD. A mood calendar is available via: http://www.depressionisreal.org/depression-resources.html Take the quiz at http://www.womentowomen.com/assessments/hormonalhealth/b/default.aspx then view their information on depression, and consider signing up for their free newsletter, and check out http://www.safemenopausesolutions.com/cl… Use http://www.patientslikeme.com/mood/commu… - MOOD CONDITIONS FORUM. Many other teenage girls experience similar problems, but women advise that, as they mature, get more used to their changing bodies, their raging hormonal fluctuations, and their brains reach full development in early adulthood, and they find their way in the world, then things get better.

There may be no single answer to your problems, but the sensible approach is to test for vitamin (optimising vitamin D3) and mineral deficiencies; correct, and ensure good levels of Omega 3 fatty acids. Dr. J. Cannell, at http://vitaminDcouncil.org is now recommending 10,000 iu of vitamin D3, ( NOT VITAMIN D2! ) daily, for depressed people. Dr. Cannell advises that the co-factors necessary to optimise its absorption, and utilisation are magnesium, zinc, boron, and vitamin K2. I recommend using either health food/vitamin stores, or Googling: " ... ; supplies" rather than risking any old, or substandard products at supermarkets, or even on pharmacy shelves. The best dietary source of vitamin K2 is natto.A deficiency in calcium can also cause depression; vitamin D3 is needed so it is utilised, and good levels of magnesium ensures it is deposited on bones, (preferably with some weight bearing exercise) where it belongs, rather than in blood vessels. Take at least 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or its FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it! Similarly with vitamin B; ensure good levels of folate are maintained. Females may benefit by balancing the DHA, & EPA versions of Omega 3 in fish, or krill oil with ALA flaxseed oil Omega 3, or at least one heaped tablespoonful of ground flaxseed, daily. Vegetarians: Google: "Omega 3; algae; supplies" Stabilise hormonal levels with bioidentical hormones from a compounding pharmacy; consult a naturopath.

Learn, and employ natural coping methods. In the meantime, or if unable to access the natural hormone treatment, you could use the core treatments shown for depression, and at first, for at least 6 weeks, either 200mg of 5-htp, or, if using a RECOMMENDED* brand of St. John's Wort (take with meals to avoid possible stomach upsets) view the websites about it on page B, and if using UP TO 50mg of 5-htp daily in addition (or UP TO 200mg of 5-htp if NOT using the wort) take with a very low protein meal, to maximise the amount crossing the blood/brain barrier, with no, or extremely little protein 2 hrs before, to 2 hrs afterwards. Also see http://curetogether.com/blog/2010/04/22/6-surprising-depression-treatments/comment-page-1/




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