How Can I Be Happy, I Want To Be Happy, Why Am I Always So Sad/ Paranoid?!


Question: How Can I Be Happy, I Want To Be Happy, Why Am I Always So Sad/ Paranoid?
Hello, i am 16, and majorly depressed, i think about the smallest things that can go wrong, the world ending, dying, and being lonely. i have really thought about suicide a lot, even though i want to die, i am so sick of having to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders, i mean i am so sick of hereing this 2012 thing, and now may, 2011 thing, i mean i want to live for a long time but how can i when everyone says were gonna die, i want to die a lot, just to stop being stressed,i grew up mormon and now consider myself athiest, i drink, smoke, and swear a lot, i am also bisexual, and feeling as if there are no guys here in casper. i want to know that 1. the world isnt going to end anytime soon, 2. what i can do to stop being depressed, 3. how to find a boyfriend, and 4. how to get help with paranoia.thnkyou

Answers:

1) i don't believe the world is going to end but there isn't any thing you can do to make it not end if it really was going to so don't worry about it. this is your only life so live it to the fullest.
2)to stop being depressed you need to think of the positive. find something that makes you happy.(like a hobbie)
3)just be your self and the right guy will come along. don't try to force feelings that arnt really there.
4) talking to someone can help. (some times you have to face it head on and just push past it)
hope i helped. im 17 and have had problems like this of my own.

personal experience



Drinking and drug use can cause depression and paranoia. If you want to get better, you need to be sober and get at-least 8 hours of sleep. I'm sure this is not the answer you want, but really it is important. If you are scared of this end of the world thing, just educate yourself on the topic and form your own opinions.



Put your hand up and swear an Oath, and repeat this line over and over.

"I will never go on Yahoo Answers and pose as a Mormon, ever again."

This will help you out.

Additionally, go to Gay-Activist Trolls Anonymous.

Sometimes the simplest of therapy is the best therapy.

The Twelve Steps for overcoming your Anti-Mormon Troll addiction will really help you out. No question about it.



I in a reticent style



I hear you. I don't like all this talk about 2012 either.
Being an atheist isn't bad. I am a christian, but i admire atheist because they choose to live under the golden rule out of a pure place in them. Unlike some christians.
There is alot of pressure with being a mormon. You are young. You are struggling with pressures to be the average youth of today, who is open, experimental and such. Go easy on yourself. YOu won't get anywhere by being mean to you. If it were a friend of yours you were really concerned with about their drinking and smoking and such, you couldn't expect to walk up to them and say " Hey, loser, stop stressing, being depressed and just fix your crap!" So don't talk to yourself that way.
When you grow up in the mormon faith, it is hard not to take things like 2012 seriously. So I am not going to try to unstick that in your mind. What I will say is that it doesn't matter today. If that is going to happen, I am sure you are thinking, then I am in trouble because I am doing all these wrong things. Ok. Do you want to quit them or not? Because beating yourself up and then NOT changing the behavior is only making this problem continue for you, it is going in circles now. If you know you are not going to stop, then admit it. Have integrity in that and tell God, I am too weak right now. I know what the right thing to do is and I am not doing it and I don't know why. Please be there for me in this time, because I am too weak. And trust that he will. Sometimes the challenge is not knowing what IS right, but doing what is right. And sometimes, we don't have it. Not because we are awful, but because we don't. Would you leave a child of yours if they said, I am too weak to walk rigth now, will you sit with me until I can? There are christians and mormons, for sure, who will disagree with me. But I hae had strong struggles in my life where I have to rely on God's love. This sounds like a time for you like that.
Suicide, this may sound awful but, isn't always a bad thought. Sometimes thinking about it gives us a break from our problems. Only you know if you are in the danger zone where you really might do something. If that is the case, SEEK HELP NOW! But if it is a thought that you have that gives you a temporary break from your stresses, I get that. It is like planning to run away, just to believe it is possible to GET AWAY. Only you know if that is you or if you are truly going to harm yourself.
I would say, let up yourself. You are young. You can make mistakes, you can choose a different path. Not all people who drink are morally corrupt. Not all people who smoke are bad people. Not all people who swear are bad...you see my point. And there are alot of loving bisexual people int he world. If you choose to continue these things, that doesn't mean you aren't or can't be a nice person. That is your religion telling you that. But I will say, smoking....will kill you before you want to die and take you away from your future children here before you should go. Wink...I was a smoker for YEARS...try to quit now before you are TOO hooked!It is awful quitting after years of doing it. Wink!
I don't know if this helps..i hope it does. God knows who you are. What you have done and will do. If you ever felt his love, remember, at that time that you felt close, he already knew the things you would choose to do now and it didn't stop him from hanging out with you then! He still loves you now. YOU need to LOVE you now. HUgs! Good Luck!



(1) The world is not going to end at 2012. All those beliefs are human made. Just imagine all the things humankind has made and think of how much of them failed us when we needed it the most.
Now, think about your body, the universe, and all the miracles that makes us curious. There's proof that there is something that is more powerful than us, which in my case, is God. The human body and mind does the most incredible and unbelievable things--there's no way any of it is by chance or luck, so what makes humans think the world will end like it will?

(2) The way I read this, I think you are depressed because everything around you is depressing to hear. Please, please, please try your best not to smoke or drink. I know its really hard to, and I don't blame you. Its just it will make you more depressed. Replace it with things you absolutely love doing--don't let anyone take you down. Do you like drawing? Painting? Building? Math? Literature?
Also, make sure you have a strong relationship with your family and/or friends. There is no shame in this, because when you need them the most, they will be there for you.
Feel happy for who you are. High confidence is an important part of being happy.
Smile that beautiful smile, I know you have one!

(3) This relates with the second part, kind of. Instead of drinking and smoking, get your friends together and go out places. Going out will help you meet new people. Don't be afraid of showing who you are to men. Go to place where you feel comfortable, safe, and happy enough to be yourself.

(4) Feeling paranoid is normal. We all feel suspicious for everything we fear. To manage it, you need to have trust. Not everything is going to go after you. Not everything is going to harm you. All paranoia is, is your insecurities. If you develop confidence, you'll reduce your insecurities.

Good luck dude.



First of all 2012 is just an aligning of the stars in our galaxy I don't know where everybody is getting these ideas about an apocalypse. People just want the world to end they have tried to prove the world was going to end in 2000 and previous years before that. I know exactly how you are feeling right now cause I have been through it growing up as a kid and I barely got over it when I was 16. Now I live my life without regret and that's how you should too If I can do it you can too you need to believe in that. So trust me when I say this, it's all in your head and Im pretty sure you knew that already but what I'm trying to get you to understand is that you have the power to remove those thoughts and fears. Don't let simple thoughts and fears run your life. You need to realize that life is what it is and we can't control it we can only go by how it goes. Don't put all your emotions on something you can't control I've tried doing that before and it gets you nowhere. You need to ignore all the negative thoughts and just live your life. I know it's hard to just ignore those thoughts but they are just thoughts and fears you keep playing in your head and trust me when you start to do that it gets easier and easier and then it gets to the point where it doesn't affect you anymore. Let it go! Let everything go and forgive me for saying this I am catholic so my opinion is be bias when it comes to belief. It gives you hope and the strength to keep going. I know it may not seem like no one's there but he is, in everything and all the things we take for granted. Try to find the lord and he will find you. He helps, and I know because he helped me. But it is your choice on your belief I'm not trying to brainwash you or anything but it's my advice I'm not gonna tell you what to believe in. Just surround yourself with good people and find productive hobbies and put others needs before yours. I hope I helped :)

Been There



You're at a prime age for depression, anxiety and paranoia. Yeah, you'll entertain the notion of suicide--but don't do it. I've been there before. I'm sure you feel like a train wreck, but it'll get better if you try.
Forget the 2012 BS. Nothing became of the "Y2K" scare. Don't pay any attention--people just love drama.
For a while (ironically I was also 16) I considered myself athiest--despite a strong Catholic upbringing. But I grew out of that, and you might too. During this period, I also smoked and swore a lot.
Don't look for the tragedy and misery in the world. Look for the glory and beauty in the world. Breathe the fresh air. Smell the flowers. Look at the great sky. Eat lovely foods and drink plenty of water. And soon your gray days will turn to sunshine!
I'm also sure you'll find a boyfriend. But you can't find a decent boyfriend with a poor attitude and no confidence. Try to be positive in spirit and you'll attract the right kind of people--be it male or female.

A disadvantage is nothing more than an opportunity waiting for improvement. And there's always room for improvement.
Best of luck to you.




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