Guys why would you shower a girl with presents?!


Question: Guys why would you shower a girl with presents?
Guys why would you buy expensive presents for a girl you know only for a week? Why would you plan and buy a holiday with her? Why would you meet her with your family and officially tells everyone you are in a relationship with her?
Girl what would you think about a guy who did all that for you?

Answers:

Well, I would say the interpretation could prove either crass or tender. He may just be angling for her to give it up and he can afford the gifts. Or he could just be really head over heels in love and maybe even going into serious debt for these gifts. But a guy who just wants to use a woman sexually I think is going to be the kind of guy who will try to accomplish that without spending so much money. Guys who are interested in emotionally cheap sex seem to be cheap in other ways too. So, with just those details to go by that you provided, I'm guessing a head over heels in love situation, or in that general direction. Which, by the way, may be sweet and tender, but it isn't love. It's infatuation. But if we're talking about love, the real deal, that takes time. Doesn't mean an infatuation can't lead to love, though. On the other hand, infatuations can also evaporate as quickly as they appear, which can be very fast.

Edit: I like what disaster girl says also. Good points there. Too much too soon just in and of itself is something to be careful with and be on your guard. I just passed through a five year marriage that sounded just like the relationship disaster girl described. In the beginning, it was like, if being loved and doted on was a storm, then I was in the middle of a perfect one of hurricane proportions. But after a few years it was like being married to a totally different person who could be sitting five feet from me but feel a thousand miles away. The change didn't happen overnight, but it happened. And then you're stuck there, like, trying to fall in love all over again because this is not the person you fell in love with, yet you can't fall in love with this new person they've become because, frankly, the person they've become (which is obviously the person they always were) turns you off. Finally, it could be that this big gift-giving person just likes the girl a lot and he's immature.

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He eaither really likes you and doesn't know the propper way to impress you so hes overdoing it or this could be a red flag for later violence.

Someone that comes on super strong super fast like this is one of the red flags for potential domestic violence. Its not a certainty like I said he may just be misguided and normal. Just keep your eyes open and your guard up about him.

Iv'e been in this situation myself and I actually live with them now have for a few years. He didn't turn out to be a domestic abuser but it did turn out that the way he was very early in the relationship is not at all who he is after time. Mine turned out to be socially detached. He is basically a hermit. He doesn't talk to me much hes not romantic or intimate anymore. He does really care about me but the truth for him atleast is that hes really not good with people hes awkward and shut in with emotions so he was overcompensating to try to win me over in the begining.



In a week???? Well i'd think it was too much, okay for the meeting my family if we really got on that well, but buying a holiday and gifts? I'd say look mate just because I'm a woman doesn't mean I don't earn money, fine lets go somewhere but let me pay half. And even then I would only agree to go if i was 100% into him, and the feelings were completely reciprocated. Just imagine, would have have sex after a week?? Some might, I wouldn't. So would you be sharing a bed on this holiday????? It's a bit dodgy. Give it a month so you know where you stand.



He may have too much money to know what to do with it or he cares too quickly and too fast. People like this can become overly needy and co-dependent. They can also become jealous and overbearing, if they have that kind of personality within them.
If you're not interested, (and maybe if you ARE) you need to break this off...it can get dangerous fast.



Well, i would say he has some other motive then just being nice. Usually gifts should come after knowing someone for a little while, especially if they are expensive.

Someone answer mine, please?



i dont shower girls with presents i shower with girls presently ;)



He obviously likes her and is seeking to start a relationship with her or he could be an obsessive stalker.



He obviously likes you, but may be taking it too fast. Buying a way into a girls heart usually isn't a good way to win her over. Keep your guard up!



Not all guys are the same, love.



dut does it because he likes the girl and think he has a shot with her or wants to get some tlc



He just wants to impress and overwhelm and get into her pants. Duh!



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