What do you do when...?!


Question: What do you do when...?
Everything you've known and trusted in feels like it's been destroyed?

This is a comfort question. Don't ask me what's wrong, just please answer for me.

Answers:

I was once told by a dear friend that you shouldn't trust anybody but yourself. I thought it was mere paranoia from all the drugs he'd been taking at the time, but after several recent events, I've realised that nothing could be more factual in life.

We're a society that thrives off gossip and spreading it. Once you obtain a piece of juicy information, you feel obliged to share it with another person. Who shares it with another. And another. And then next thing you know, you are the central topic of gossip.

What should you do? Move on. Life is ridiculously short; Don't ponder over what could have happened. It's not worth it.

I had a best friend who I believed I could trust my life with - I would have trusted her with my bank account or firstborn child. But found myself completely shattered when she told *her* best friend a horrible secret of mine, which was spread within days. I wouldn't communicate with anyone for days, cried myself senseless over it and went into suicidal episodes - it wasn't rendered from the fact people knew my horrible secret, but the fact the only person I could trust, was now just another person to me.

It's not worth the time and energy to grieve, when you could be simply moving on from what happened. Sure, it can be a burden and a total f*cking drag, and it's more than normal to cry over it, but if you're able to hold your chin high, smile and carry on, you're a champion.

Take good care of yourself : )



Well it seems unlikely that everything that you have known and trusted has been destroyed. That being said, you are probably exaggerating the situation. It is difficult to advise someone or comfort them if you have no idea what the situation is.
I will take a guess and say that someone has hurt you. Someone that you trust and love very much. This could be a parent, a brother or sister, a spouse or a friend.
They did something really stupid or really hurtful. Now, if they did something stupid...well...go figure. They are human and we are stupid. If they did something hurtful intentionally...well...that's a horse of a different colour.
Again it is difficult to say what you should do without knowing the situation.
it sounds like you are very sensitive person. You probably are caring and considerate and when people are not that way back it hurts your feelings. That is going to happen a lot so try not to expect too much from other people. Just keep being the way you are and don't change. The world doesn't have enough caring and sensitive people in it.
Oh yeah and calm communication is very helpful. Try and express your feelings calmly at a time that you feel is appropriate.
Sorry I would like to be more help.



Turn goth. run away. i have had friends that turn on me because i hated the popular girls BF i know you pain i do




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