after he went, i feel as iv'e lost myself?!


Question: After he went, i feel as iv'e lost myself?
We started talking when i was on holiday, and when i came back i went to see him with my friend, and it was her cousion, we started talking and getting close then we was going out, well we was a couple. it all started out so lovley i'd never had somebody like that before to love me like that, we got on so so so well, he wold always call me and text me and put on facebook to hurry up and he loves me. He said he didn;t want to do anything until we got to know eachother abit more so we did thne the magic happend, i loved him even more. Then, things went weird, he went out with him friends and saying oh i alwasy saw you not them, and he would shout at me then i went and had an overdoes and he said if i did it again it would be over time passed we had a bust up, and it was because what i said, then he always shouted at me and it was always my fault, he made me feel like crap, but i'd always go back to him when it was my fault. Because i wanted somebody to love, i had another overdoes he finished it, i lost myself and him. Everything what i ever loved died. And he said only reason he was with me because that i wouldn't ave done anything stupid. So, he said that i should go and kill myself, that life is better without me here. Now, everytime i see a photo of him i cry but i want to be over him but i sit and eat nutella not ice cream to cry? he shouted so much! and it always was my fault, now he has a girlfriend and i just think in my head how he just to cuddle me and lay me on his bed and look into my eyes, he was on top and use to kiss my nose and look deep into my eyes. When he left me i lost a part of myself, and now i can't find it.
i just miss him..

Answers:

I love how you write a question and just get rude answers that don't halp at all. To the first two people: (well not really the second guy but the first one, really dude?) why'd you even bother? How would you like someone to do that for you? But hey what goes around comes around :)
Anyways sweetie, I read once, "When you make somone your everything, when they're gone you have nothing." I have been through this. You don't know what to do with all your time, you don't know who to talk to because they're all thats on your mind. Its completely devastating. I know its easy for people to say advice but its harder really to do it. So all I can give you is my advice and when your ready you will follow it. You let this boy define who you are that is why you feel as if you've lost yourself. This relationship built you up, he made you feel special until he got what he wanted. Sex always complicates things sweetie. Your feelings change and his attitude does too. You feel closer to him and the closer to draw to him the more a guy tends to draw away from you. Clingy is never good. I been there before. Instead of finding myself and happiness because of what I was or did, I found it in a boy. He made me feel happy and pretty and special (*asshole*) and like our love was something so rare and I really believed him. I got too attached as you did. Pretty soon all your happiness depends on him so if he's not happy you're not. You give him power over you because he can manipulate you. He knows this too. He uses you sweetie. The sad reality is that most young boys and men too have one thing on their mind. Once they get it, the chase is over, it becomes boring to them because they already had it. Think about it, when you get something and its new, its fun you spend so much time on it, then after awhile it gets old to you the excitement is gone. When you have someone who doesn't truly care for you they get this way. And yes it may have seemed so real but SOME PEOPLE ARE REALLLLLY GOOD LIARS/ACTORS. REALLY GOOD OK. trust me I know! I was always in constant criticism and was never good enough for my dad.. I think thats why I tried so hard to please guys as I got older and started dating. When they said things so good to me I got hooked and almost obsessed. I don't know if you may have had trouble with your dad but sometimes this can cause physcological issues such as these.
My advice on how I made it through: So cliche but "Time Heals All." It will take time, lots and lots of time prolly for you since you seem like you are like me. Cry as much as you want but just try to control it when your around others, wait till your in private or try to. Sometimes we agree that it's our fault because we have become dependent on the other person so much that we say or do anything to be with them. THIS IS CALLED MANIPULATION. Learn to recognize it now because guys will try to do this your whole life if you let them. He walks all over you because he thinks you need him so you will be willing to accept any treatment he decides to dish out to you. Not cool dude. I know it may seem as if you cannot live without him but thats only because he made up for something you was lacking in yourself. Learn from this relationship and next time you take the time to fix yourself, be happy with who you are and what you are accomplishing in your life and you will not feel the need for a man to make you feel better about yourself. This way when you get to know him you are going to fall for who he is, not what he does for you. This is the best way for a relationship to work in my opinion. Don't ever doubt yourself. You don't need anyone to complete you. It may be hard for you to believe what Im saying but like I said earlier give it time honey. Repeat positive things to yourself even if you don't believe them they will subconsciously get stuck in your head and after time you will think differently. Get hobbies sweetheart, make new friends if you can, just do things to get your mind off him. And one more thing if you are angry.. hold on to that. Remind yourself how angry he makes you but don't do anything crazy like slash his tires or something lol. Don't even talk about it to him or anyone else. Just remind yourself. Over and over. This will help you get over it because eventually you see how he made you feel and how he didn't care about how you felt. It helps but then once you do get over him you will have to let it go lol. I don't know if that makes any sense at all but you shouldn't hold a grudge forever just until you build yourself back up. Only as long as its beneficiary and it helps you. When you finally get over it (which took me 4 years) then you have to forgive. Everything happens for a reason sweetie and These things happen to us to teach us things and make us stronger people. Just remember when you hit rock bottom, the only way to go is up.



Do you really want someone that yells at you all the time and treats you like crap?
He's not worth your time or energy, it might hurt now but it'll get easier...and you'll realise how much happier you are without him.



If you haven't lost yourself, you've sure as hell lost all remnants of a proper education. That text wall was a grammar atrocity.

Dumb whore.



There should be some sort of freaking literacy test before you are allowed on this site.

Yeah, thumb my comment down. You retards know I'm right.



You have to get over it. He sounds a bit immature for you. Time to go fishing and move on.



Love can be cruel, its not your fault. You were & still R in love with him. For some reason he made wrong choice's. First of all u must never forget that when u R together again . Maybe to say Hi. It could quickly leed to Love/Sex for him? U will never be able to change him. Again U will overdose & this time u may die. Your Life depends on staying away from him. What was is no more. What could have been is dead. YOU aren't & have a destiny to fulfill in life. A part of you has been scared but u must get the strength to finish what u started. Your Life. If anyone should be tormented and overdose it should not be U. Ever. There is many people that wish they were in your shoe's. Have a heart as lovely. smart & compassion. Don''t throw it out the window. I use to know a man like that. Deep inside he had the Devil in him. He must have been very demeaning to his wife's. Each time they overdosed & he was at work. Deep Deep inside him he could never turn loose of anything worldly & he convinced them this was the only way out. Not that easy but he is still alive with all his money and maybe with another young wife. Don't ever let it be U. It may be a poor example being u R so young but u can't replace your Life.



Get over him as quick as you wrote this.It's over,he was no good.
Show some self respect to yourself.He had nerve to tell you kill yourself?
That is not love,it's sad and terrible.You need help for whatever is causing these feelings.
Some of these answers are sad also,ignore them.You are better then them.
There are other enjoyable things in life.Maybe hope someone new comes along or be alone.
I'm usually alone because of sad circumstances,but i still smile and am happy somedays.
Don't let this drag you down,life is too short to dwell on events that are gone.
Take Care..bye



F*CK ME




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