Nightmares about being raped by your father?!


Question: Nightmares about being raped by your father?
I'm having horrible nightmares about my father raping me. They are very graphic and violent and are basically causing me insomnia because i'm so reluctant to sleep.
I have a really good relationship with my dad. He has had to travel for work a lot, so has been physically distant at times, but has always been emotionally present, and tries his hardest to keep up with us while also doing his job. My sister, mother and I all trust, love and respect him hugely. I don't understand why i'm having these nightmares at all.
I am slightly masochistic and some of my sexual fantasies involve having pain inflicted on me, but these dreams are nothing like that. They are simply horrific; repulsive and not arousing in the least.

What could be causing these/ If you don't know what's a good way to find out/ how can i stop them?
I'm female, 17.
Additionally: I've not had fantastic mental health- i suffered from an eating disorder and anxiety, for which I received some treatment (weekly therapy). But now my eating disorder has withdrawn my insomnia is worse. I'm under a bit of stress, but not more than usual. During the day I find it easy to stay in a pretty amiable mood, but at night I'm tired and afraid.
Help me!

Answers:

I've had dreams similar to this. Rape is my biggest fear and I commonly have rape dreams when I'm stressed or sick but they usually never fully play out. The only one that ever played out was when my brother raped me and the dream continued to the after-effects.

This could have something to do with your anxiety mixed with subconscious feelings of abandonment that he's been distant. But because you have a good relationship with him, that doesn't seem likely. You can look at dreammoods.com for interpretations of incest or rape dreams, but they don't seem to fit your situation either. I'd chalk yours up to being stressed and anxious. Also, if you're taking any sleep aids like benedryll or insomniac meds, those often result in strange, violent, or sexual dreams. Or if you eat something strange before bed. Next time your dad is free, try spending some quality time with him having fun and strengthening your relationship with him. Perhaps all you need is to confirm with yourself that he's not distant after all, just busy.

I know this rambled a bit. I hope it helped.

Psychology major



They seem like anxiety dreams/nightmares to me. It makes me wonder if you are sexually experienced; if not, that would tend to explain it,



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A previous answer follows: Remember the troubling nightmare in as much detail as you can. Create a scenario in which you manage to prevail. "Tonight, in my dreams, I want to confront the ???/call on a dream ally for help". Write down your chosen form on a piece of paper, at least 3 times, and repeat 3 times aloud, after lights out, and visualise yourself doing it, as vividly as you can, and WANT TO DO IT!!!, with all the desire you can muster, to better communicate this concept to your subconscious mind, through imagery & emotional intensity, so it understands that this is important. Place the piece of paper under your pillow (metaphorically "sleeping on it"). Your subconscious existed before you could walk, or talk. It knows images, muscles/movement, and emotions: communicate with it in terms it can understand. It doesn't understand negatives, and everything is in the present tense to it; there is no past or future. When dreaming, try calling for assistance from a dream character - anyone, alive or long since passed on, even your favorite superhero is available to provide assistance, in the dreamstate. You can even try the technique of "dream re-entry", and use your new solution in that exact same situation. Try the above for 2 - 3 weeks; I believe there is a good chance they will work. Options, for later: Hypnosis is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which you are better able to communicate with your subconscious mind. 85% of people are suggestible, to some degree, so you could either seek professional hypnotherapy, or more alternatives along such lines are at http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_13.html where this came from; see pages 1, & I about eating disorders; pages 1, & m about stress, and page 1 about insomnia.. My experience, however, is that the subconscious mind will re-manifest them in a different form, until what it sees as the problem is satisfactorily dealt with. In dream analysis, we are taught that each character inhabiting a dream represents some part of us. It is an axiom that the sole judge of the interpretation of any dream/nightmare is the person who dreamt it. If the nightmare doesn't respond to the above, after a few weeks of trying that technique every night; then it is time to look deeper for the cause. You may benefit from looking at your normal waking life.

What problems, and decisions are there? Is there something you have been avoiding, or putting off? Your subconscious mind is trying to get you to focus on something which it considers is important, and resolve it. You could try asking for an answer in your dreams, as per the previous answer, writing it down 3 times, repeating to yourself in bed, after lights out, and focusing on wanting the answer. "Tonight, in my dreams, I want to remember what the figure is trying to tell me". This method, if it works, should do so in a week, or two. If not, hypnotictapes.com has one titled "dream the answer", but professional hypnotherapy is always much preferable. Many nightmares result from anxiety, so I suggest that learning to deal effectively with the anxiety in your normal waking life may well have a carryover effect into the realm of dreams. http://sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds.htm may be worth checking out, as well. I have noticed that, since I began using 100mg of 5-htp daily for anxiety, my dreams have become considerably less unpleasant. Eating some things, like large, hot, heavy, or spicy meals late at night, results in nightmares for some people, so be aware of this, and if you experience a nightmare, ask yourself what was it that you ate beforehand, and avoid such "nightmare triggers" in future, unless consumed early in the evening, or before. Avoid coffee/caffeine products within 6 hrs of bedtime; a list is on page F, at 8m.com, below. If you go to www.mercola.com and type "EFT" (and EFT therapists) in the taskbar provided, there is an affirmation on nightmares, and this technique is well worth trying, before paying for remedies or professional therapy, and if you give it a good try, but find it ineffective, the alternatives are still there for you to try. www.tapping.com has 13 free videos on it; also www.emofree.com. Read: Banishing Night Terrors And Nightmares: A Breakthrough Program to Heal the Traumas That Shatter Peaceful Sleep by Christopher Raoul Carranza and Jane Rogers Dill, from your bookstore, or Amazon.com More suggestions are shown at http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_13.html and effective natural treatments for anxiety as shown on pages 1, and i. More about dream analysis is on page o. View http://www.dreammoods.com/dreaminformation/dreamtheory/perls.htm




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