What to do?? I'm really self conscious and insecure?!

Shawna, I realize that posting these questions is a way to get another answer but why? You have someone to talk to that is a professional. Let them be the one that guides you. Remember the story of the ugly duckling. That applies to you. Everyone matures at a different rate so why judge yourself against a standard that no one can measure up to? People that are mature are not looking to see what you look like but what is projected from the inside. Smile and that is all that people will see. Take the time to smile and laugh and people will flock around you. What you see as negatives someone else sees as a positive. If all of the people that you think were so great or you just look up to were to place their real problems in a pile you would gladly pick up yours. The grass always looks greener from afar. When you get up close you notice the brown spots from the natural fertilizer that gets dropped there. Tend to your own garden and things will look better.

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Self conscious, just try to change the subject and find another hobby to get your mind out of it, like music for example.

you need to work on your self esteem and not focus on your looks... think about your talents and skills.. what are you good at? What strengths do I have?

Intellectually;

Can I solve problems? Am I curious to discover new ideas? Can I accept new ideas? Do I understand things quickly - films, TV programmes, books? Can I explain my ideas clearly? Do I make decisions after having thought them through and looked at alternatives? Can I write clearly; think clearly; talk easily to a variety of people? Am I skilled with numbers, on paper, in my head?

Practical Ability;

Am I skilled with my hands? Am I good with making and repairing things? Can I cook well (bad example with ED suffers I guess?!) Can I make the most of my appearance? Do I organise my time well? Can I manage my money? Am I a skilled gardener; decorator, designer. etc.

Artistic Abilities;

Do I have ability, skill, talent in music; playing it, listening to it? Have I got rhythm? Am I good at dancing? Can I paint? Am I good with pottery making, writing stories, poetry? Do I enjoy or create beauty in any way?

Use of Leisure Time;

What do I do and enjoy in my spare time? Do I read? Make or collect things? Do I enjoy socialising and meeting other people? Do I enjoy concerts? Games or puzzles? Do I like going to the theatre, dancing etc? How do I fill my time? What are my hobbies? What am I interested in?

Social Strengths;

Do I help other people? Do I do any voluntary work? Do I help my neighbour? My friends? Those in need? Do I help members of my family? Do I do anything to help the environment?

Relationship Strengths;

Do I meet people easily? Do I get on well with members of my family; my neighbours, people at work or in class? Do I trust people and can I BE trusted by them? Do I have a sense of humour? Am I interested in other people? Do I listen to other people? Do I try to empathise and see things from someone else's point of view? Am I reliable?

Personal Strengths;

Am I; honest, determined, patient, alert, friendly, happy, humorous, generous, caring, gentle, fit, considerate, genuine, skilled, sensible, capable of initiative, energetic? Am I bright, smart, cheerful, positive, trusting and trustworthy?


What other personal qualities do I have?


What other strengths do I have which are not include in this checklist???