I have no choice. I'm dead aren't I?!


Question: I have no choice. I'm dead aren't I?
I have aspergers. I have few social skills, alot of confusion about the world, I zone out alot, get distracted, and the only jobs I can get are low-maintenance ones with no future. Most people who used to tolerate me are gone, no one wants to be with someone with these problems, i'm starting to develop really bad emotional problems, and no therapy worked on me so i'm pretty sure that I have further to fall, especially once I start living on my own. Am I really just living just to live, my only communication with a social worker. Life really sucks. If you don't think that, then you have no idea what is going on at all. This is a nightmare and a prison, a hell hole with no real escape. I'm waiting to die.

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My brother has aspergers, and it just takes longer to develop a social network. Probably lonliness is 75% of your problem so far as feeling despair. I have a lot of aspie traits, and I find that hobby clubs tend to attract a lot of aspie types, because they automatically have something in common to talk about, and also hobby clubs attract the people who are really passionate about a topic. There are other out there like you. My brother collects elements to complete the periodic table of the elements and surprise! that is an activity that a lot of people do. I wouldn't be surprised if there is a message board for that someplace, but he doesn't type so he wouldn't know.

Anyhow, ask your social worker for help in connecting with others - finding hobby clubs, social groups for aspies, that type of thing. We have a drop in center in my area for people with mental illnesses, and I am sure in cities there would be groups for people with aspergers. i'm rural, and there is nothing for that niche here. My brother got kinda popular for awhile, fixing everyones' TV setups when TV switched to digital. You have to find your groove, and that is where your social worker, who probably has excellent social skills, can help.

I also got my brother a kid's book on social etiquette, and that helped. he didn't know about things like saying thank you and you're welcome and offer visitors a can of soda or whatever to be polite, etc. the one I got him was the American Girl one, cuz there weren't many choices at our rural library, but he did learn stuff. You don't want an adult book - they will spend loads of time on how to address wedding stationery.

If you had been born royalty, you would have been trained into good social skills whether they came naturally to you or not. This is what you are not getting. So you have to figure out ways to train yourself. I specifically did this from a young age, so my social skills are almost average, I would guess, but I think I would have been diagnosed with asperger's when I was a kid. My brother is sure of it, and he did not train train train like I did, and he says it is obvious to him that I compensated thru learning. what I did was do theater, debate and speech, and continue to actively pursue public speaking and leadership opportunities to deal with my extreme shyness, but it never came naturally, and still does not. I'm 46.

Good luck.



i feel ya dude, i don't have aspergers but i have seen people that do. you could do something fun to get out of the aspergers to get your mind off of it, music is a great escape to anything thats going on. maybe get a pet that is lovable and kind like a golden retriever dog, something that will love you for you, most people dont understand what your going through :/

hope that helps, and good luck in everything you do! :0)



Everyone on this earth has a purpose and every ones purpose is great just focus on figuring out yours you'll do something great you'll probably save a life of someone who will change the world or save the life of someone who will be of really good use to you you'll never know til the day comes don't give up Think about it

Me



There are people in the world who have it much worse then u do. So count your blessings. Also we r all just waiting to die. life is a *****. Get used to it

u r not the only one



I feel similar but its not worth taking ur own life for, I have tried and failed I just want to get well now




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