i told my boyfriend that i self harm.. why hasnt he done anything about it?!


Question: I told my boyfriend that i self harm.. why hasnt he done anything about it?
i told him about two weeks ago and everyday for a week everytime i saw him he would ask how i was and hold me for about 5 minutes and he would constantly check up on me by sending texts and calling me etc, everytime i would say i was fine because what else could i say? but now hes treating me just as he did before and it makes me think that hes forgotten about my problem.. i dont really know what to do because i dont want to keep shoving it in his face

Answers:

It's great that you reached out to your boyfriend and let him know that you have been self harming. It sounds like he is very caring and supportive and seems to be concerned for you. It may be that he does not know how to get you the help that you need or how to help you in any other way. Have you let anyone else know about what has been going on? Getting the help that you want my require letting someone else such as a parent, counselor, or doctor know. It seems like you really want to get better and things will improve if you continue to reach out for help!

If you want to talk or need some advice, please call one of our counselors at 1-800-448-3000. We are youth crisis line and are here 24 hours a day 7 days a week to help. We look forward to hearing from you!!

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That's kinda good. He's still treating you the way he did before, he's probably thinking oh shes happy that she told me and I'm still with her. But it seems like to me you feel insaulted, you feel he's not giving you the right attention you wanted. Right now your being selfish. It's YOUR problem Hun, you need to stop it NOT him. He'll help you get trough it but you need to work on it yourself. Your lucky you have a great bf who hasn't left you and checks on you.



Why should he be doing anything about it? What are you expecting him to do? You kept telling him you were "fine" so he has nothing to go on to even start helping you.
If your behavior is bothering you, than YOU should do something about it and find a therapist who can help you. It's your responsibility to take care of yourself.



you are trying grab attention from him in a silly way. instead of expecting him to keep asking about it why dont you stop harming your self? it'll meake him and you feel better. if you are having issues and can't stop them seek medical help or talk to a counsellor. self harm is not good. you are going to simply hurt your self bad. change your attitude and you will change your life for better.



Sounds to me like you want hes attention
What did you expect him to do? If your telling him your fine. He will stop worrying and quite checking on you. Are you cutting your self? Find out what it is you really want. Until then you want stop hurting your self.



Why are you telling him? What do you expect him to do about it?

It's a lot for a young person to take on.

You would be far better off telling your school counsellor you self-harm, they at least are qualified and trained to do something about it.



He cannot "fix"you. He is not a doctor or psychologist. You need to talk to your school counselor, school nurse or a doctor or psychologist. He is your boyfriend not your doctor.



Yes. Why would you want to keep shoving it in his face. You want to sort it then it is down to you.



You are using him for attention subconsciously in your relationship, and he's finally realising it



Maybe he thinks that no matter what he does, it won't make it better. Guys think differently than girls, obviously. :P



Maybe he is tired of it. You shouldn't trouble him with your problems too much because he can leave you



What can he do? He is just a kid. You need professional help. Tell an adult and get the help you need.



You know what everyone has a tone of problems have you asked about his?



grow up why haven't you done anything about it.



I self-harm and my boyfriend found out that I self-harmed so he flipped out. He made me show him the scars and promise him to never do it again. He was involved in the situation at first, but from there I don't think he knew what to do without making me feel uncomfortable. He probably loves you and wants to make sure that you don't break up with him for him doing something stupid like checking up on you all the time or something like that. What you should be doing is telling your parents if you feel like your ready to recover from this. OR tell a friend who you know will hold you accountable with self-injury and ask you how you're doing with it. I don't think your attention-seeking like others might, I just think you want to recover, just like me. That's okay. You deserve it, hun.
Take care! <3




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