If you had depression and someone you were very close to always made you feel wo!


Question: If you had depression and someone you were very close to always made you feel worse, but not on purpose...?
What would you do? Talk to them about it even though you knew they wouldn't understand, and then have to go through it all the time still, anyway? Pretend like everything was dandy and secretly be dying inside every time you were near them? Start ignoring them completely as to end your friendship? Help :{

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My cousin does this to me, she is constantly talking about her marriage and her friends from her religion and I can't talk about anything with her because if it's negative she doesn't want to hear it (So I can't talk to her about ANYTHING). I'm trying to cut her out of my life slowly, she seems happy whether I'm in it or not. So my initial response is to say end your friendship, but after reading the responses here already maybe you should just limit your contact with your friend, explain to them again and then try to move on. Maybe it is time for you to find a better friend!! Good luck, it's hard enough to go through depression let alone to have a friend that doesn't give you friendship!



it just shows you have very strong feelings for that person - whether as a friend or more it does not matter, I would advice you to not end your friendship as that will make you feel worse also not talk to them as they will most likely not understand but if your really close then tell them and i would have to say your going to have to pretend everything is fine and dandy .. get more closer to other people and that will help you take your mind of that person close to you



like you said, i highly doubt they'd understand if you told them what's going on. most people would think you had a problem with them and/or there was something seriously wrong with them, enough to make someone else depressed. i was clinically depressed all throughout high school, and a number of my family members actually made me feel worse just by being around me. they were extremely nice people, but their general situations in life just brought me down to the point where i felt so sad for them and my mood suffered greatly because of which.

don't break connections, you need all the support you can get in these situations. my best advice would be to limit contact with whoever is troubling you, but try to maintain a positive attitude during the time you actually see them. if your situation is different than mine and they're actually causing you to be depressed by their own actions, maybe you should have a talk with them and get it out of your system.



explain to them and if they continue after that to make you feel worse then they are doing it on purpose and you need to end the relationship and explain to them why you are ending it. you have enough of a problem without being around someone that makes you feel bad about something that you have little control over.

personal experience.



They understand sadness and suffering. There's no reason why they wouldn't understand. I think your friend is close-minded and has difficulty accepting she/he has faults.



smack the dumb *****




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