Overthinking. A lot. Should I go back to therapy?!


Question: Overthinking. A lot. Should I go back to therapy?
I've been diagnosed with anxiety, so I was in therapy. But I stopped because Josh, this guy a year older than me who was in my group (I did individual and group therapy, but the group was not helpful at all) wanted "things" from me and I freaked out, and got my mom to withdraw me from therapy.

I guess my anxiety's gotten better, but around October when the Josh incident happened I started just getting really sad. Everything changed in my eyes, I don't know if I just needed to stay i therapy or if I was traumatized by the Josh thing. Or maybe it was because the weather was getting colder and I hate being cold.

I've always been an overthinker, but since winter 2010 it's gotten really bad. Sometimes nothing makes sense. I also have ADhD, so I do really poorly in school. Which doesn't help with my lack of friends this year. Most of my friends went to the other high school in our town, including my two best friends who have gotten me through so much crap my head puts me through.

I've become so much less confident, happy, and fun. I spend so much time trying to figure out why and when it started, I know it was some time around November or October.

And my main "group of friends" this year is really hard to get out of because I'm all sad and not making very many new friends. I know it's pathetic. And I don't like this group. It's some people from my old middle school, most of whom I didn't talk to much last year.

But their maturity levels are so much lower than mine. I hate it. I'm used to hanging out with people who are more socially and mentally mature than me. It helps me see good examples. But this year I'm stuck with annoying people. Long story short, they are nice 60% of the time, but 40% of the time they make me want to burn something they act so stupid. I typed up complaints about them but I don't want to make this a tl;dr question.

And I fear every day I spend with them, I am becoming more and more like them.

Anyways, there's some background information. My main point is, I seek answers for everything. I am obsessively overanalyzing, and it makes me feel queasy sometimes. And then I overthink about why I overthink. Because I really want to know why I do that when I know it isn't healthy. And I wonder if with professional help i could think clearly. But I don't want to waste time if it isn't worth it.

Oh, and my school "friends" who I am close with and help with their problems won't listen to my problems, which is why I'm consulting yahoo answers :P

Answers:

I know what it's like to over think over and over again. Eventually I was either going to have a breakdown, or I needed to find a point to everything. There are millions of ways anything in life can go, and that's why it's impossible to calculate every small detail. My advice is to just find a common point or trait in things and just expect that. Don't go overboard anymore with it. Make yourself stop. Only think more on it if more factors come into play. Otherwise, just accept life and go with the flow. Let things surprise you; that's what can be fun!

As far as friends go, you need to learn the definition of the term. If you don't like them, then perhaps you should leave them be. You're only as good as the crowd you hang out with.

Personal advice, that may or may not be explained well. But I tried and hope it helps.



Hmm.. I'd like to have a chat w/ you. Gone through some of these myself and I'd like to help. Do you have skype or msn or something with an IM?



Yes you are over thinking, don't worry because the vast majority of people do this, this is the human condition, do you want to know how to stop thinking. Once again, I know from experience that this will help, in fact this is the only way you will ever control your mind, otherwise your mind will most certainly control you, it's also called Wisdom. I hope very much that you will do this, it is very important to your evolution, there is a way out of human suffering, and there is only one way out, it is called Enlightenment. The sages asked the Buddha what is Enlightenment, all he could answer is this " the end of suffering ".
Please, go and buy the book "A New Earth" by Ecart Tolle. It will change your life forever.
It really is that important.

Please people, I know that your probably tired of reading this same answer over and over, but this actually is the answer that so many people are looking for. Ask yourself a question, are you more interested in in getting the right answer and appearing superior in intellect than you are in actually helping this person. Wisdom - Enlightenment, synonymous, read the book yourself and you will understand.



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