He wants to hook up, but says it will just be me doing him (BJ) and not him doin!


Question: He wants to hook up, but says it will just be me doing him (BJ) and not him doing me?
I asked this guy out and he says he doesn't want to date me, but we can hook up for oral sex, but that I can only give it to him, he won't give it to me.

I know it sounds bad, but I think once we start things he will realise how great we can be together. What do you think? I am a virgin and have never done this before and I really like this guy.

Answers:

I am telling you from personal experience, this will not end well for you. There is such a thing as casual sex with no emotional strings, but it is extremely rare. If you like him, truly, this is the worst thing you could do to yourself by going along. I have done this, hooked up with a guy I liked because I thought it would make him like me more, but it did not. He started dating another girl and kept me on the side without my knowledge. Of course, it ended terribly, me losing him as a friend and anything I had hoped we'd be. PLEASE also know that in my opinion, giving oral sex but not having vaginal sex does NOT keep you as a virgin. Oral sex is extremely intimate. I believe sex is not just intercourse, but anything intimate. Putting your mouth on a male's genitals and stimulating him is NOT a virginal act. Please, please consider your own mental health; this will destroy you if it ends like it sounds it will and it is not something you will be able to get over quickly. Trust me, it has been 4 years since my incident and I still ache. I wish I had not done anything and saved myself the heartache. Take care of yourself. <3

4 years of heartache



He stated upfront what your date would be like. Extremely selfish. You cannot no matter how much you think you can change another person. He was out there and honest. It would be so unhealthy and degrading for you to have a date with him. It would damage your self esteem and possibly your reputation. You don't want to be anywhere near a guy like that. Just think about what he would think about you if you allowed yourself to be used in this horrible way. Say no and keep looking for a guy that you deserve who will treat you the way that you deserve.



Don't do it. You'll regret it later in life. Even though I'm not with the guy I lost my virginity to anymore, I'm glad I waited and did it the right way. And what if he doesn't realize how great you can be together. Excuse my language, but all he wants is a ******** and he doesn't care who gives it to him. He will only hurt you in the long run. I don't care how much you like him, he just wants a ********. That's all he cares about.



What a slob he is!!! His whole point is to get what he wants and laugh at you in the locker room.
Your going to get nothing out of this, you are smarter than this and have allot more respect for yourself than this, don't do anything that you can't get on the phone and tell your Grandmother about.
This is an obnoxious, self serving, narcissistic PIG...OMG
I can't believe you are even considering going threw with this, NO self respecting guy would say this to a woman, he already told you it's all about him you mean nothing...and believe me you never will.

Find a nice guy and get over him...UGGG!!!!



The only thing he'd get from me would be a kick in the balls. You're too good for him. Men like that disgust me.

DON'T degrade yourself just for some guy's fun who doesn't even care one iota about you.



F$@# that guy and find someone that likes you back because he never will!

I'm a guy I just know



He might have std's, don't do it.



don't do it



Did u kno u can get STD from giving BJ's? Don't do it hun!



dont do it he is trying to use you. you are better then that,save your self for marriage




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