Need opinions on rape?!


Question: Need opinions on rape?
I was at a bar last october, and a guy came up to me when i was with my friends, I was really drunk and he offered to buy me a drink, i accepted and then told him we were leaving but as i was leaving my friends got a little ahead of me. I couldn't catch up and they were lost in the crowd, i go to turn around and the guy had been following me. A little creeped out i started searching, alone and very intoxicated, for my friends. He followed me the whole time, i remember him saying they "left you alone, they aren't here i saw them leave." I remember trying to leave the bar because i lived close and thought it would be safer at home and i saw him following me outside still. Next thing i remember is waking up in a house on a couch with him on top of me. I ran out as fast as I could, and fell all the way down the apartment stairs. My clothes I was wearing were ripped, and i got home to find out i didnt have my nylons or underwear or anything. I went to the sexual health clinic and got tested and checked and they said my vagina was ripped from him forcing himself in me. They offered me help as in counselling, and i was really upset at the time and didn't feel comfortable talking to a stranger about it. The way i approached telling my best friends was wrong, i made a joke out of it to try and laugh it off and now they always crack jokes. They don't take me serious when i try to tell them that i am upset. I cry almost every night, knowing that i shouldn't have gotten drunk enough to black out, or wondering if he slipped something in my drink. I don't know how to get over this, because little things trigger thoughts of it all of the time and it's driving me crazy. I know I'm at fault for accepting a drink from a stranger, but my altered state didn't allow me to make any good decisions at the time.

If you could please just give me some pointers on dealing with situations similar to these, or have any other advice, would be greatly appreciated.

Answers:

Here is the truth:

You were the victim of a crime.
There is no difference if you were robbed or car jacked....it was a crime and you are not at fault at all. The fact that you were intoxicated at a public bar is not an excuse to victimize you, kidnap you, dose you, rape you and assault you.
And so, I'm urging you to return to the sexual health clinic and ask again for the counseling. The women who do sexual assault counseling don't take this as a joke...no, far from it. What happened to you was a serious crime perpetrated by a criminal who is still out there doing this to other women. The counselors are total professionals and they will get you off your self blame and guilt trip and will support you as you recover and learn new assertiveness skills. They will teach you how to protect yourself. They will help you to resolve this episode in your life and have courage to go on.

I'm not kidding.
You desperately need to talk to these people because they are deadly serious about putting guys like the creep who assaulted you behind bars and empowering women, bringing them from victim status to fully confident and functional human beings again.
Don't wait.
Help yourself.
I wish you al the best.



I have a question for you.
Has he ruined you for other men?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mongoloid_race



forget about it......never ever talk about it again with ur friends and tell them strictly once and forever never to discuss it again!!!!



Nothing can be remedied at this stage. One should be very careful, alert and vigilant in future at least. Once bitten twice shy.

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Seeing a professional is the only way to get better.



You need to get counseling you're traumatized and the simple fact that your asking sympathy from strangers is proof. I don't even know if I should feel sorry for you or if you are on here trolling for attention either way you need to talk to someone no ones 4 sentence answer is going to fix this.



If you are pretty and hot guys are going to follow you because they want girls like that and have sex with them. First of all I know you like to drink but do not get drunk in the first place or guys will follow you. Good luck. My local bar is pretty safe.

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