Is it my fault this girl is depressed and suicidal? I feel she is being dramatic!


Question: Is it my fault this girl is depressed and suicidal? I feel she is being dramatic on purpose.?
I worked with this girl who is nine years younger than me and we were friends and she developed feelings for me and told me. I had told everyone at my work I was single, because I don't like people to pry into my life, but I have a fiancee in my home country, so that is why this girl thought we could have something. I told her I had a girlfriend and she left me alone for six months and even left the country without saying goodbye.

Six months later she starts emailing me again, telling me that she wants to be with me and loves me and then sends me about ten love letters every day for the next year. I would never address the fact that she wanted to be with me, I would just comment on other things she talked about like movies etc.

After one year of this, the emails started to get more graphic and were all about sex and how she wanted to be with me. I called her up a few times and we had phone sex and then I asked her to strip for me on web cam. I said we could be together secretly and she was really happy about that, but then I changed my mind and just stopped responding to her emails.

I now find out she was admitted to hospital last week after trying to kill herself.

What should I do?

Answers:

wow, sounds like a bad situation.. well you should never have led her on with the phone sex etc.. Honestly, if you had a fiancee.. that's not good.



Ok, I know where you are coming from and am not going to be jerks and religious fanaics like the rest of these people, you didn't do anything wrong dude, I have been in the same situation. You did nothing, she provided herself for what you did and she did it, she fell for you and did those things on her own accord, you didn't make her so ya



Wtf you totally led her on!!!! Not only were you unfaithful but you pushed another person to the brink of suicide. I can't believe you. If you really wanted her to leave you alone you shouldnt have used her like you did. You should have ignored her!!! You are such scum.



Be honest next time you ruin someone else relationship with you.You would of been blamed for her being depress but then a few years down the road you three will get over it.



You should get out of this girls life - haven't you ruined it enough and it was wrong for you to lead her on



It was pretty obvious this girl has problems. Your use of her for online and phone sex was just that, use. Is it your fault she is now the way she is? Partly. Although she certainly was always a bit sad in the head, you definitely took advantage of her weakness for your own gratification. The way you have behaved is disgusting. Yuck, my pity is with both the women here, lets not forget your fiancee who probably knows nothing of what a jerk she is planning to marry.



This could have all been avoided but because you are a male, vagina Is blinding just delete everything. You did very lead her on and that is wrong for you do but under the situation I can't really blame you but you should take in the fact you did do something wrong don't try to make up any excuses because I know your thinking about it

This is not going to die down easily as much as you want it to nut up for your actions until you make amends with this woman and tell the truth to your fiancée or else this will haunt you for a good while



i think if you did not want to be with her you should not have led her on
she is not being dramatic, getting your heartbroken is the worst feeling anyone could experience EVER. besides the death of a loved one
and sometimes it is still worse than that
you should treat her with kindness and just try to be there for her but if you do not want to BE with her then you need to clarify that, so their is no confusion
now i also feel bad for you fiance, how could you do that to her? wow, i really do not know what to say, you should be ashamed of yourself



Wow! WTF!?

Okay, well. You did 'sort-of' cheat on your girlfriend on watching her strip on camera. It's interesting that after you leave and six months later, she e-mails you and calls. I imagine she had a love interest within your leave to that six months that didn't work out.

Perhaps she's a gold-digger if provided you have some kind of good paying job you have now, and the grim answer of no drove her to her near-suicide.

What I suggest, (and it's not the best answer and I'm just a 29-year-old night shift automotive interiors laborer in Detroit, MI, USA, not a psychiatrist), is to keep this away from your girlfriend. This girl needs to accept the answer of no and move on. Hopefully, she doesn't become that psychotic and come to your home country and cause some madness.




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