How do I handle a suicidal guy who told me he loves me?!


Question: How do I handle a suicidal guy who told me he loves me?
No one like TL;DR paragraphs, so I'll keep it short. I met him over the internet, but never quite broke communication because I was afraid of what he'd do to himself if I did. Last night, he told me he loved me, and was seemingly quite close to ending his life. To talk him down, I made promises I can't keep, and if I dump him, he's going to think I'm doing what his last girlfriend did. All in all, I don't want anyone to die. What in the hell do I do now?

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Man, I hate guys that do that. Any guy that uses the excuse," I'll kill myself if you dump me." Or," I'll hurt myself if you dump me." Is not right in the head, even if they're telling the truth or not. Trapping a girl in a relationship is an awful thing... The worst thing you could do is break those promises you made him when he's thought you've been telling the truth the whole time... That'll only make things worse. I mean, the only thing I can think of that you can do is to just fix this... You can't lead him on or anything, even if he is on the brink of suicide, you have to tell him the truth, but do it gently and explain to him everything and your fears about him committing suicide/why you made those promises, etc... Just make sure he understands, don't just break off all ties after you tell him you don't really want to be with him, make sure he's clear on the reasons so that he knows that it's not anything personal and that you were just trying to keep him from dying.

(Hopefully that all makes sense, I hope it all goes alright.)



Do you know where this guy lives? Call the local police department in his location and report him to the authorities. The police department will send someone over to check on him and if necessary, bring him in on a seventy two hour hold. A seventy two hour hold can be voluntary or involuntary on his part but essentially your friend will be admitted to a psychiatric hospital for seventy two hours while a physician and other health care workers evaluate his mental condition.

Once you've called the authorities, then end all ties with this guy. He sounds like a classic manipulator.



Yeah, i'd say to explore the relationship if you want to but if he is going to hold you hostage with the suicide thing, then I would say to him that i'm calling the hospital on you. he can't manipulate u in this way and expect good things to come from it



Tell him if he loves u and wants to make a go of it he needs to seek help asap or things are not going anywhere.

Or just block him and crack on with ur life.

I doubt he would kill himself most who say they are never do and are after attention.



Of course you don't want him to die but by the same token do you want to be held hostage by his poor behavior. This is emotional blackmail and certainly isn't the basis for any good relationship.



You need to get him help ASAP. This is not something you are equipped to deal with. Tell somebody.



it would be best to tell him the truth instead of lying to him i know i would want the truth.



avoid him like the plague. he,s a control freak, and you,re enabling him.



break up with him, and tell him ur best friend is into him. then pass him down to her :)




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