How Do I Stop Being So Superficial/Shallow?!
Question: How Do I Stop Being So Superficial/Shallow?
I've been asked out a few times b4 but I rejected everyone because I'm wayyy too superficial. It might have something to do with the fact that I started watching porn and masturbate since grade 1, so when I was 6, before I could even kum, and that's how I think women I have sex with should look like subconsciously and can't find anyone else attractive. I know it's terrible and it makes a me jerk but I really can't help it. Is there anyway I can stop being so focused on appearance?
Answers:
The fact that you realise there is a problem here and have some insight into a possible cause is a good thing. However keep in mind that you are young and being 'superficial' at this age is the norm. Just try to focus on other aspects of women you meet such as their kindness, intelligence, wisdom etc. Hopefully as you mature your views of women will mature and become more complex.
Sounds like you need to go through media withdrawl. No more porn, no magazines, tv or movies of any kind for a set period of time (a year?) in order to deprogram your mind. It's a long, slow process but gradually you'll develop a less superficial view of people and life esp if you substitute all that tv and movies with true stories from people's lives and some spiritual books as well. Good luck on your journey - this could be very life enriching for you :)