I am a 27 year old male who has lost everything in his life, and needs advice?!


Question: I am a 27 year old male who has lost everything in his life, and needs advice?
I lost my business, i lost my condo, which was paid in full (Lost it because i sold it, and used the money to gamble with). I lost my girlfriend, and i lost all my friends, because i never hung out with them, and i was a jerk all time to them. I lost my girlfriend, because i drank too much and gambled too much, and lied to her. I lost over 250k in my own money and assets and then tried to kill myself, which landed me in the mental institute for a few weeks. Now i am out, how do i get everything back and become happy again? Any suggestions. I havent gambled or drank in 90 days, but still feel miserable because everything is gone.

Answers:

You have a terrific opportunity to rebuild your life the right way. Since you realize why and where everything went wrong, it should be much easier than the first time. Congratulations on the 90 days of sobriety from drink and gambling. That is quite an accomplishment. It is indeed the foundation on which your life will be built very differently, Take one day at a time. Do the essential stuff first like a job, roof over your head and food. Enjoy and celebrate each accomplishment. It is important that you do not try to return to what was. You will be building a good life, but a different life which you need. Your past history tells us that. It didn't work out before and will not work out this time if you just try to repeat everything. Your friends will even be different. But all this is a very good thing.

I have a nephew very much like you, and he is so strong and just keeps on plugging away to change his life. He makes me proud.



You have taken the 2 most important steps to get back what you lost, you stopped drinking and you stopped gambling, now use your intelligence that I know you have to regain everything and more.
You are only 27 years old, and you have a full life ahead of you, so take it one step at a time like I am sure you did before, and when you do get everything back, show respect to your friends, wife and family, since you can't make it alone.

Been there, done that, except I didn't drink, use drugs or gamble



Now that you've gone your lowest you have to see that it can do nothing but go up! You are sober and have given up your old ways, things that put you where you've been. If i'm understanding correctly you've lost your business, home and friends because of these- so who's to say you can't do it again? (you still have plenty of life ahead of you!)
there is no magical pill to give you everything back- but you yourself have every ability to make yourself happy again.



Gambling addictions, especially to casino sucker games are tuffer to kick than all drugs combined.

I've seen two people who've lost it all, but continue the madness gambling with credit cards and mortgaging their homes.

You should be very proud of yourself, 30 days without gambling and drinking is quite a fine accomplishment.

Keep your chin up. Positive attitude is necessary for recovery too. Things will get better each and every day.

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Go to a Church, preferably Catholic. Even if you don't believe in God, go to a few sessions of RCIA or a few masses, it can really help people turn their life around. Basically getting good friends back is also important, and really just forgetting about the past.

Best of luck for you, you will be in my prayers,

God Bless.



Theres a song called "burn my shadow away" by unkle that speaks to this. Its about forgetting your past and what you thought was your future and creating a newer, better one. Try listening to it it might strike a chord somewhere



:O oh no....

well that's past now...you're not going to get anything from thinking or crying about it....i think by now you should have learned A LOT about life....and i'm sure you'll never go back to your old lifestyle again ...right?....so start fresh...:)...you're young....if you had a business, that means you're educated....find a small job..then work your way up...maybe not up to a millionaire (who knows)....make friends or try to connect back with old friends...i think friends are a HUGE part of a person's life...and girlfriend...trust me you'll have a gf soon...:)...

I think you should enjoy life....that means a small simple life happily with your small family...and by enjoy i don't mean gamble and drink again...obviously those can't be counted as enjoyment anymore....haven't you heard you can't buy happiness with money...so try not to work to be rich but to make enough to enjoy each day simply....when you have a simple life ...you'll want to wake up everyday happy and live everyday of it :D....

hope i helped ...at least a bit...:)
good luck to a successful life




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