Why am i a pathetic loser?!


Question: Why am i a pathetic loser?
Basically i have been very depressed for a few years. I dont have alot of friends and the ones that i do i question the friendship. They seem to like being around me somedays but not others. Its very hard for me to get a girlfriend. All the ones at my school are very judgemental and only seem to date good looking jerks. I consider my self extremly unattractive. Im only a few pounds overweight though it looks like more (yes ive tried diet and exercise but it doesnt work) and my face is covered in acne. Sometimes i think my life is a complete waste. I usually sit on my bed with a knife held to my throat trying to pull it across but i cant. No matter how much people pick on me and put me down, i never can seem to do it. Im afraid to admit it to everybody so i laugh and smile pretending to think that what theyre doing is funny. My own family makes fun of me as well though they try to pretend as though nothing was ever said. My "best friend" usually ignores me whenever i try to talk to him and when he does talk to me he isnt very excited about it. Please help me.

Answers:

I'm sorry to hear about your pain. First off here's a hug (((HUG)))) which I think you desperately need. Try to imagine yourself hugging yourself every morning, it will help even though it sounds cheesey. You have to be good to yourself - good and very kind, especially when you feel like crap. You need to get your mood up. Nevermind losing weight, just try to get a half hour of aerobic exercise 4 times a week to boost your brain chemicals/mood. Also it's a lot harder to be depressed when you're busy - try joining some clubs or sports or volunteering either within or outside of your school. Your depression might tell you that you're not interested in anything but try joining whether or not you feel interested and as your mood increases you may be surprised to find you're having an okay to good time despite at first feeling like you wouldn't. Acne will clear up and looks aren't everything AT ALL (don't believe the media). As you start to feel better you'll want to help others and that will make you feel even better. Later when your life and heart are in a better place you'll find yourself attracting better friends and a nice girlfriend. Look for the positive people in this world - they're too busy volunteering and doing lots of positive things to put people down, you can get involved with them. Also you could talk to the school nurse or counsellor or a nice teacher for a listening ear. Good luck man and remember THINGS CHANGE (esp when we take new actions in our lives). Again (((HUG))).

'The World Needs Your Kid' by Craig and Marc Kielburger (founders of 'Free the Children') - a great place to start to learn about living more positively.



If you keep going on with your life eventually things will get better, I know because I have the same kind of problems except for the knife part. And something that i have noticed is that the loser today becomes the leader tomorrow, because us losers know what it is to suffer, be poor etc; and we are the people who actually give a damn to important things and stand up when the time is right, while all the "winners" just sit and do nothing.



hey if you true inner would feel the same you wouldn't hesitate to commit suicide ;)
for the girl section: the most of the youth are looking for 'handsome' guys but those relationships never last long. a waste of time in my opinion.(got the same problem. the solution is: just wait)
for the friends: time is the key again. someday you will find someone who sees and likes you in the way you are ( i hope kindness for example^^)

and i think there is no other long lasting solution.

My personal experience



if u need a caring friend i'm here. I need a caring friend lol... i'm mostly the same as you expect the part about feeling unattractive and holding a knife up to my throat. i'm on 6 dif meds so i can control that last 1, but i use to and now, i just mostly cry, my family telling me to shut up and be quiet when crying. by the way, you're not a pathetic loser.

oh - jlsamrs_foo@yahoo.com



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talk to your parents



First off your not pathetic, I know exactly how you feel i have been down the same road as you, it does get better it sounds to me like your really passive try to talk to people it can only get better from here. as for your family i don't know what to do entirely, see i go thought the same thing, they make fun of me all the time, in fact they call me pathetic, which automatically drew my attention when you questioned yourself being a pathetic loser. i know what you mean about the girl thing, that really doesn't change much till you actually become friends with a girl besides if a girl is going to be shallow enough to go for a jerk then there's really no point in you wasting your time on them. i really feel like theres more to you than you realize, i hope things get better for you. good luck please don't do anything stupid with that knife, you ARE someone, to more people than you know.

me ^_^




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