My boyfriend makes me cry every day?!


Question: My boyfriend makes me cry every day?
my boyfriend used to be really horrible to me, but i stuck through everything with him because i knew he was a good person. he just went though this a**hole phase when he was hanging around the wrong types of people, doing things he has never even considered doing before (underage drinking, partying past 3 on school nights, treating me like absolute sh*t, ect...). now i'm sort of traumatized by everything. he sexually abused me daily (forcing me to give him oral and trying to make me have sex every day even though he knew i wanted to wait), crossed many lines with his girl "friends" (snuggled with one, went on a date with another, did so many couple things with another she thought he liked her and she tried to get with him cuz he never told her about me), ignored me for games, friends he just met (those bad ones from the beginning), other girls, cartoons. he'd manipulate me into showing him my chest over skype by saying "if you love me youd show them to me," then immediately afterwards, he go back to playing games. he also grew more distant than he's ever been, and i felt so alone and heartbroken i basically cried every time i was alone.

after a year of showing him how much he hurt me (i kept it inside for awhile), he finally sees how horrible he used to be. he's back to his old self again, but i'm still messed up. every day something reminds me of the past and i start crying. he feels so horrible about everything he's done, he says he failed me and that he's worthless and i just feel so awful that i can't move on. if i would stop crying, he'd be happy all day and i'd be happy all day, but i'll see something and it'll trigger a memory and i'll feel lonely and abused and heartbroken all over again, even though he pays attention to me all the time and never pushes me into anything anymore.

how do i move on from all of this? could someone please give me some advice on how to get past the past? :(

Answers:

Your heart doesn't know "time" in these things. What I mean is "before" isn't in the past because your heart hasn't healed from all the hurt. Maybe I'm wrong, but from what I know and what I've seen it takes both time and crying to get the hurt 'out'. I think it's part of the healing process and there's prolly no way to zip through it; instead it just takes what it takes because the hurt of a broken heart is different for everyone.

The only advice I can give is to remember everyday that you are a remarkable and wonderful treasure. Your passion and inner worth make you a gift for those around you, and the people around you are LUCKY to have you in their lives.

Take care as best you possibly can and know a better life is coming.



I only have this to say: Men like this will never change. I'm sorry but if you think that you can "change" him or that he's changed on his own, he hasn't. When you've had enough, you will know. Good luck.

I used to be in a relationship like this.



It is simple then
LEAVE HIM!
You don't deserve to be treated like dirt
you might not matter to that person but you are priceless to another person
Don't forget your value girl from luan legacy.

Its not healthy to be around that boy. Leave him!



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Just reading this as a guy, leaves me one reaction:
Leave him.

This is what abusive guys do! They lead you in, sweep you off your feet, then they show their true colours. They make you do things you'd never otherwise do, they take advantage of your innocence / not knowing any better, and then, when you're sad and feel like beat, they promise that they'll change.

And girls, I don't know why they do it, think they can change the guy. Let me tell you: You can't. As a guy, if you abuse a relationship once, you'll do it again, and again, and again, as long as you can get away with it. It's not pretty, but it's how some guys work.

I'm sorry I'm probably not of much use to you- but my gut feeling is to leave the guy.




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