Please help me i am so stressed!?!


Question: Please help me i am so stressed!?
Okay im going to be blunt: im stressed to the point of ainxiety attacks everyday. I have so many of my own problems to deal with, and then now i have problems of my half sister, older sister, mother, best friend, older dude friend, and my own. Its all complicated and im tired of dealing with everything. Because my sister is in trouble for sneaking her boyfriend over, she cant stay home alone and i have to babysit my little sister who is a demon more. I hyperventalate everyday to the edge of passing out, and no one knows how bad it really is. All the problems are extremly serious but i cant talk about them to anyone or even on here. Please, what can i do? Im 14 and we cant afford counsiling and im homeschooled so no school counsler. Please help me!!!! Im having one now so pkease forgive any spelling mistakes...

Answers:

Aww Honey,

Calm down sweetheart, breathe slowly, you need to learn how to breathe slower and deeper ok, hyperventilating is caused when you breathe really fast and it raises your heart beat so try and calm down and slow your breathing. Ever noticed when your hyperventilating your breathing is rapid and your pulse is too? You can even start trembling or shaking. All these combined heightens the severity of your panic attacks. You have to and need to try to get control of yourself physically and emotionally when you have an episode of anxiety/panic.

I know people think God is the answer but in your case it really doesn't help you. They mean well but they just don't get you. We need to find out the reasons why you have panic attacks. What triggers them do you know? There are things that trigger your anxiety. What are they? Heightened stress? Fear? Unhappiness? Pressure? not having friends to bounce off/talk/laugh or play with? memories of abuse? violence?

Taking on other peoples problems is not helping you to deal properly with your own issues/causes of your anxiety and what triggers them. You are young and you are going through a volatile time hormonally and physically which in effect magnifies everything until it snowballs out of control. You don't want to be in that position so be wise and leave everybody else to deal with their own issues,m and you focus solely on your own. Leave people to take responsibility for their own problems, it isn't your responsibility to sort out their issues. You neither have the know-how or the experience behind you to do so.

Counselling is available & there are free options if you see a Dr and have them refer you to one close to you who bulk bills. It is wise to stop telling yourself about prices or what you can't do when you are not even aware of what services are available to society. Thinking that way forces you to feel like there is no help and that is far from the truth. There IS help, there ARE counselling that is FREE, you just have to visit a Dr and get referred to these services. Look I know it maybe hard for you to do but you really should tell someone what's happening with you. To say you cannot talk to anyone about things is absolutely ludicrous my darling - your making excuses to prevent yourself from getting help you need if you continue to think like that. Perhaps your panic attacks are stemming from you not feeling you are being heard or able to off load? Do you have anyone you can bounce off/talk to, share your problems with, confide in. If you don't then you need to find someone. Talking out your problems with someone can really help you a lot if you can't talk to a therapist.

I'm sorry for your situation, don't make it any worse for yourself by hiding it away and bottling it all up. It is not healthy. Talk to your parents or an adult that can help you get the help you need. And remember stop sorting out problems that are not yours to sort out. Leave people to take ownership of their own stuff ups and problems and you focus on your breathing techniques to keep you calm. You have the power to control your breathing so learn to control it and by doing so you'll lessen the severity of your anxiety attacks. Don't say you can't when you very well know you can and should.

There are people who want to get better and there are people who don't. The people who do learn to control their attacks and recognise what triggers the episodes are the ones who make the attempts all the time to gain control of their feelings. People who don't are those who can't be bothered, it these people who need to get therapy and seek the aid of a medical practitioner who specialises in mental health disorders. You decide which one you would rather be. You can choose to be either. Which ever you choose, you'll know what follows having said that.

Another thing you need to be aware of is Over analyzing situations and submerging yourself in negativity until it completely consumes you, which is what is happening with you during your episodes. Let go of reading into things so much. That is typical of someone who doesn't want to share/talk about what they're trying to process in their mind, when they should be talking to someone about it to help see things clearer. Perhaps yoga or meditation is something you can learn to do. Google how to control panic attacks etc. Actively research about panic attacks so it helps you get a clearer understanding of what happens during an episode, what brings them on and how to regain control can only be beneficial for you.

Good Luck



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I really feel for you. I had to babysit my older sister who was demon-possessed when my mom had had enough and needed some relief. She should have told her to leave, but she was also suicidal. I know how it is. It's hard to deal with. You need to get close to God and pray and he will help you. Learn the promiises in the Bible that help. I'll send you a few.

Phil. 4:6-7, I John 3:22; 5:14-15, Psalm 1:1-3; 103, 91; 27 and many others.

Isaiah 41:10, 40:28-31, 50:7; 54:17; 43:1-3; 61:1-3, 7.

Are you saved yet??? That's what is important. God can and will be GLAD to help you with anything. Just get saved, and you will be able to communicate with him through Jesus Christ.

Read this:

SALVATION:

For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. Romans 3:23, see also Rom. 6:23

24 I can guarantee this truth: A single grain of wheat doesn’t produce anything unless it is planted in the ground and dies. If it dies, it will produce a lot of grain. 25 Those who love their lives will destroy them, and those who hate their lives in this world will guard them for everlasting life. John 12:24-25 (GOD’S WORD Translation)

For the sorrow according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation; but the sorrow of the world produces death. II Corinthians 7:10

If we confess our sins, He is faithful to forgive us all our sins, and to cleanse us of all unrighteousness. I John 1:9, see also Isaiah 43:25

Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If any man (or woman or child) hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and sup with him and he with me. Revelation 3:20, see also Ezekiel 36:26

Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, and times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord. Acts 3:19, see also Isaiah 1:18

For as many as received Him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them who believe on His name. John 1:12, see also Ephesians 2:8-10

If any man (woman or child) be in Christ, he is a new creature. Old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. II Corinthians 5:17, see also Ez. 36:27

For more understanding about salvation read: Isaiah 1:18-19; 55:6-9, Ephesians 2:8-10, Ezekiel 36:26-27. May God be with you now. Jesus is the way, the true way, the only way.
Read also John 1 and 3.
For the Baptism of the Holy Ghost read Luke 3:16, John 1:33, Acts 1:5, 8; 2:4; 11:16; 19:4-6 and the book of Acts (all).



anxiety and panic attacks are the same thing, go to amazon and order a self help book on agoraphobia or panic disorder, it will tell you all you need to know
get some valium type meds or an antihistamine ( travel sickness pill, etc) and carry with you
when an attack starts, disolve a tablet under the tongue and breathe deep and slow, relax, dont tense up or fight back

to calm yourself breathe deep and slow, deep and fast is hyperventilation and can make you pass out, its just a bad habit, so dont do it
also avoid rapid shallow panting

sounds like you worry too much, dont adopt ior take on board everyone elses problems, a self help book on stopping worry would also help




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