I feel so lonely right now its unbelievable?!


Question: I feel so lonely right now its unbelievable?
the thing is i live alone and i go to work and come back home, go to work and come back home everyday to an empty flat, its just me. I have no friends and i suffer from social anxiety so its hard for me to make friends, im so depressed. Im only 20 and im bored with my life already i just want out!

Answers:

i can always be a friend :)

i'm sorry, its so hard to help someone in a situation like this.. i'm in a horrible situation myself at the moment... i feel like there's no way out...

please seek help for your social anxiety problems, some doctors do amazing things you know..

and if you ever need someone to talk to, I'll be someone that will never judge you, and ill listen all night, im like that.

pretty_chick21@hotmail.com

wish you all the best xo



It's very hard. I understand what's happening right now. Just think to yourself, if I don't break this anxiety, this will be my life forever. You only have one. Just be yourself, and there's got to be someone out there who will love you for who you are. I bet you are a magnificent young man and you deserve to be loved. Just stay positive, have fun, and trust me you will go far! Get out of your house and do something, that will help also, and who knows maybe you will meet someone along the way. I hope this helped.



I'm in the same boat. Social anxiety has ruined my life. I can't stand it. I've been at home, literally, for 2 years. I'm terrified to go outside. However, I do have a fiancée. But we're not able to go out on normal dates or anything. (Yet.) I still feel lonely. There's always this deep loneliness that I can't get rid of and I'm always terrified that when I do have someone, they're going to leave me. Life is not what you make of it.

I never chose to be this way and I bet you didn't either. Hopefully we'll both find the answer<3 I'll pray for you. I don't really know what to tell you though. But know that you're not the only one out there.



That sounds pretty depressing and I can completely relate. http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/foru… is a good site, because it's allowed me to find some people who are in the same position.

I've made plenty of friends there. It's not the same as having someone in real life you can catch up with, but it helps ease the loneliness and depression.

I'm sorry I can't really offer you any help, but I genuinely hope things get better for you.



please go to your gp 2 morro isuffered for 10 years but went to my gp and he gave me my life back have you a family member whom you can talk to or have u any friends in work that you can invite back maybe for a meal i was about your age when things started to og wrong for me but now im a mother to 2 children and grandmother to 4 things will get better for you but you must take little steps every day and then week by week you will have gone quite a distance start 2 morro i wish you all the best xxxxxxxxxxx



I was and am exactly like you, so heres my two cents:

Youre worried about what people think of you. Thats because deep inside you need everyone to be impressed by you. To look up to you. You wnt to be the life of the group, the one everyone admires. But that youll end up looking like a fool.

Stop worrying so much. You will always have people dislike you or even hate you guts. But you will also have people that like you.


Ive lived alone for quite a few years, nd yes in the beginning its quite rough. And it will get worse. It gets better only in that you get jaded and feel more comfrtable alone. I suggest making friends.

If you feel you cant tough it out, being alone like i did, go find someone. Not just a girl, but friends. Join a group - try meetup.com, lots of people meet up like a book group, movie group, game group, robotics group, religious goups, exercise groups, even dating groups. Pick one and go, no obligation to return. if your in college join a group. Or join a fraternity.



Sounds upsetting, but did you have a question? Your life is what you make it. If you're not doing anything other than going to work and coming back home, that's YOUR choice. It's not something that's happening TO you. You're bored? Then change the way you go about your life. Whining is not a solution.



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Just hang in there man, I've been there. Don't ever give up on life, because you never know when things could turn around.



Hi have you tried meetup.com? You'll find lots of people who simply want to meet people. Find a small group where you think you might feel comfortable.
Make a list of what makes you comfortable and what makes you uncomfortable about other people, then choose your friends accordingly.
Get networking online. Being in touch with people makes you feel better, and by communicating online, on some social networking site, you can be less anxious than when directly speaking to people.
Else there must be something that interests you... do a course in a community college, just anything, languages, photography, anything.
I once did a community college course to develop the voice, and it included many tricks to overcome shyness, e.g. when speaking in front of others. There must be a kind of group or course that deals with exactly your problem. So you could meet people who have the same problem, and socialise with them to start with.

Look at all the options and out of those choose what interests you the most, or what you're the most excited about. Make an effort. If nothing interests you very much, try the option that interests you the most, even if it's just a little. If NOTHING AT ALL interests you, you're definitely depressed (happens to all of us at some point). Look into acupuncture, homeopathy or ayurvedic medicine, there are simple herbal remedies that can change your mood. Try Feldenkrais Technique or Bowen therapy, I find it great for getting your spirits up as well as relaxing your muscles. Also maybe start some regular exercise, whichever you like the most, it's normal that you have to push yourself at the beginning. Get some fresh air. Maybe find a sports club, doesn't have to be fancy, but try some gym classes, a table-tennis club. Go traveling. Sign up with couchsurfing.org to travel and make friends with people all over the world.

Start slowly and be gentle on yourself. Make a small step, once you're really comfortable with something, make another gentle step forward. Always pay attention to yourself, to what makes you feel good and what doesn't. Make your choices accordingly.

Maybe try some hypnotherapy, and get rid of the root cause of your problem.

Always remember, we've all got our problems, we're all shy in some situation, we just don't go there, or we go there gently and exercise being in the situation, until we're really comfortable with it.

Go to a shop without any money on you and try on lots of expensive clothes, then hand them all back, say thank you and leave without buying any. Exercise your confidence.

Make a list of all the good experiences with people that you've had in the past year, and be grateful for them. Smile at old people in a shop, they might be lonely and very happy just to see someone smile at them. Offer help to someone in need - experience their gratitude. It can be someone in the street, carry someone's suitcase up the stairs or help in any way, they are complete strangers and won't meet you again so no reason to be shy.

Maybe get a pet, it's a nice way to have a friend...only to start with. So many humans are dying to be your friend...




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