Should I just end my life today?!


Question: Should I just end my life today?
i am just really mad and dissapointed with myself that I have people say they're going to be my friend but then there's always another friend that is way better then me and they are way closer. I thought I had a best friend who I could say I was close to but we haven't been getting along and we've been getting in fights and she called me selfish and we don't talk much anymore. I'm just tired of life being this way. I can't even make friends online anymore. I don't think people like me. I am like the opposite of a people magnet. I'm not horribly ugly or fat, i smile and keep a positive attitude, no matter what I feel or do or say, I feel like I never fit in at school. Is it so bad that I just want to be close to someone? I'm tired, I'm frustrated. I'm tired of people promising to be my friend but then they get tired of me or get bored. People just don't take interest in me. Is there something wrong with me? Is it because I'm not cool enough or I don't dress like a complete slut or have the nicest things? Is it because I don't have a "great life"? Or is it because I don't believe in God? I'm trying really hard personally and everytime I feel like I've taken a step forward, I feel like I'm also taking two steps back. Why is it so impossible????? I just want people to like me. I'm so frustrated. One of these days I'm going to kill myself and just be done with it. I'm tired of being so alone all the time and not being accepted. I just want to be close to someone and to have a best friend. I want to be myself. I look at myself and see a normal person with opportunity for happiness. But it just doesn't happen...no matter what i do.. or how hard i try

Answers:

Of course not. Persistance is what wins.
You know, this isn't that easy a question to answer about finding, developing and keeping friends.
So many things happen to each of us, changes in our lives, different schools, and all that.
I think there are some people like yourself, that have all it takes to make and keep good friends, and they have to find , not only their 'niche' in life, but in finding friends.
People don't necessarily know how to make and keep friends. Especially when the emphasis is online , and not face to face. Real friendship is face to face. Maybe you know all that, maybe you have good role models or instinctually know that, and others don't, idk.
This problem is so rampant, that there are entire studies done and everyone adult knows it and is talking about it at times.. the blame is on 'high tech' , lack of face to face contact and all that. But that isn't all that is going on.
I think some people attract more people to them faster, than others, and sometimes it is a sense of something unseen energies, or hard to define characteristic of the person. Sometimes it doesn't mean that at all.
People, now a days, have trouble making friends. that is what it is.
The first thing you could look at is where you find them, where you look for them , what type person do you look for , are you wanting unavailable people to be your friends and thus setting yourself up for failure? that is an example.
So, you need to find some guidance and healthy role models and mentors and start thinking about how to meet people capable of being real friends.
Even though you don't believe in anything in particular about G-d, you can still find people with good values that know how to make friends.
Most people go through this in their lives. Sometimes people never make a lot of friends, and rely entirely on spouses and children.
Regardless, you can sit with yourself and figure out, sort out, what you are doing, and maybe where you can meet new people and how to be a good friend, and how to make sure someone is a good friend to you also.
We have to love ourselves and be our own best friend in order to attract them, also.
I am thinking maybe you could start a 'friendship' group at your school, and discuss what it takes to be a friend, and all that.
YOu could join groups that are obvious , like startstrongteens.org giverespect.org loveisnotabuse.com teenrelationships.org girlsinc.org doublesunrise.com etc.
People will come in and out of your life , all your life. People will value friendship as they grow older , and may wish they had stayed in touch with you.
You may need to communicate your desire to them better, to have friends and what that means to you.
Find someone worthy of trust to give you some feedback about how you are coming across, and then talk about what you can do differently, if anything.
If you are your own best friend first, you will never be lonely.

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Ever try psychotherapy? It's very helpful to have an unbiased person to talk to. Life is full of ups and downs. Feeling down, it will pass. I've been down before and made it through to the ups and I'm glad I didn't give up.



find something to live for, don't focus on the negatives, life is life its ups and downs



not at all...ive tried so many times.. but this really puts thing in perspective.. my friend showed it to me

Are you thinking about suicide? Thinking about how - if you killed yourself - nobody would care?
Think again.

If you kill yourself you will change somebodya??s world. That's right. They will see everything differently. Just hearing your name will burn their mind with memories. They wona??t be able to go near where you lived; even your town will hold memories. Listening to the radio they'll hear that song, remember, that song you sang with them once? They'll step past your locker every day and wonder why you are not there. Why are you not there??

Do you want to be responsible for your family members, the people who love you, crying every night? For your sisters or brothers losing part of who they are? Your suicide is going to affect most deeply those who care about you most. That's not right. One of your friends may break down, and just like you, their world will be dark. The pain you are in is awful, but why pass it on to hundreds of people around you, when you could try your hardest to work through it?

Your family will be paranoid. Suddenly everyone will be talking about them. Do you want to be known as 'the kid who killed themselves?' People you never knew will be crying when they hear what you've done. Yes, they will be affected. Everyone around you will stop and think; "was there something I could have done?" Suddenly the people of your world are dying with guilt. All those little hints you gave, they'll remember them. Oh yes, and it will torture them all the time.

Your friends will think of suicide. Your closest friends are likely to go into a depression like the one that claimed your life. How will they cope, without you? This will break them, for the rest of their lives. And leta??s not forget the people who will plan your funeral. Your closest friends and family picking out songs for you, photos of you. Crying all the night before, and all the day of your funeral. And all the night after. In fact, they will cry now more than you ever did. Could they have saved you?

They'll be angry. Oh yes. Why didn't you tell them? They loved you. And now it's too late. They'll be angry with you because they know, they know you could have gotten through it. Then they'll be angry with themselves because they may have been able to save you if only they knew.

And one day, one day years from now, they'll remember you. They will all still remember you. The girl that sat up the front of your class; she'll remember you. The bus driver you saw every morning; he'll remember you. That little girl you sat with on the bus once, The kid you gave money to at the shop, all your siblings friends, the people that you don't see, but that see you everyday they will all remember you. And every single one of them will wonder; why?

But imagine your family.

You are part of them. Without you, something is missing. If you killed yourself then part of them dies too. They are incomplete. Every family gathering will be missing something. The photos on the wall are suddenly all cold reminders of what you did.

Who goes through your bedroom? Who cleans out your locker? Who calls the school to tell them one of their students has died? Who tells the students? Who calls the funeral directors? Who arranges a coffin for you? Who calls your best friend to tell them you're dead??

Who finds you?

Please, there are other ways out. I know sometimes the struggle is very, very hard. But it's not worth giving up on life. Life is all we have, life is everything. Its the beautiful moments, and the sad ones. Please, don't give up on all those around you. You can make it through.

My teacher said this about her father, who committed suicide:
"I understand that the pain is overwhelming, but I will never forgive him for the pain he has caused others. It was just selfish. If you kill yourself you spread the suffering among thousands of people, it doesn't only affect those around you but everyone who has ever come in contact with you."

Please, keep fighting. You can get through this and see that there is life after what you're facing now. It may be hard, but you'll get there, and when you do you will appreciate it so much more. I understand that most people know that suicide affects others, but please keep this in mind if you're ever feeling so low. Give people the chance to help you.



well let me start by saying lil mama *** friends..sounds harsh but wen i went to college u noe i kinda thought it was cool to have best friends and people to realy on...but in the big picture shawty its all about u...u remind me of me jus a tad.. i allowed myself to trust people witch led to me getting let down time after time..u must understand dont sell yourself short. i grew up in the country..like seriously till i was fourteen n able to get my own shoes they were either hand me downs or from walmart.you know i thought my friends were humble as me but there not including the female i wanted to have my child..like she has cheated over n over and most of yhe guys i called homeboyz either tried to back door my girl or as soon as i left they were talking about me..but at the end of the day life is to short..please understand i dont want u to b like me but beta. why dat? cause i allowed people to almost make me become depressed and unreliable..shawty i loss it all, from losing my finacal aid, loss my father, loss my house even a female who would neva leave me..jus please keep these wanna ba azz ****** out yo face put your education first and if u was like me i wasnt such a looker until my last year of high school. now i can have any female i grew up with but they so played out now..so this is what ima do ima pray for me n u n odd enough i can kinda agree with u exept i believe in demons and angels..and odd enough i noe theres a devil because people do more eveil dan good..ima say wat my dad last said to me b4 he died...itz going to b ok jus keep yo head up..an from this day foward ima b your friend for life ok...;)



please believe me it is not you i have the same in life people pick me up and drop me and it still hurts even after 36 years, BUT no one has the right to make you feel this way and no one is worth killing yourself for, if you need a friend or just someone to talk to im here,im also lonely at times but i now believe that if people dont like me for who i am not what i could be there not worth knowing in the first place .



These are everyday problomes, friendship isn't something you buy it's somthing you get, you can't force people to like you and if you just be casual and live life people will like you and you'll make friends i have these problomes most people do but don't take your life these problomes are temporary suicide is a perminent end to a TEMPORARY Problome so please do not take your like because of this!



Don't commit suicide. It's not worth it. You'll find a true friend one day. Whatever you do, don't take your life because of someone else. If you need a friend, you can email me. stacey1993@tds.net & we can talk.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlX4fclm3tTCL6FDsmTtwF7sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20110330104357AA2HoDC
I just posted this question.
I've been feeling depressed and all that, so I know how you feel.
Good luck!



you need to talk to someone if you don't feel comfortable talking to ur parents make an appointment with doctor they'll keep it confidential or go to ur school councillor u need help be it using anti depressants or with talk therapies just please tell someone before you rush into anything you will regret
look after yourself okay




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