can mental/verbal abusive people have ocd or a mad cleaning germ phobia?!
Question: Can mental/verbal abusive people have ocd or a mad cleaning germ phobia?
the abusive person amongst other things had a germ phobia and was constantly cleaning be it the house, car, children, and making sure everything was were it suppose to be to a point where i would get abused because he would get stressed out because he couldn't obviously keep up with this madness 24/7.
is this a characteristic of abusive people?
his mother has the same problem and the some of his siblings, now does this mean the abuse has also come from the mother?
i have noticed occasions of weirdness with her but cant put my finger on it. i know she lies but in general she tries to be nice but does like to be center of attention. ive only know her 6 years. i suppose this site is like counseling i have had alot of peace from asking these questions because i thought it was me.
also the abusive person is now looking a bit weird when i see him holding his ears, rocking, looking depressed, angry, not talking unless a direct question, i have seen this befor and comforted him and its gone back as it was. i almost feel sorry for him but i move on, because i dont love him anough any more
can these sort of people kill themselves? would he hurt my children?
im scared because he cant hurt me no more, whos going to get it?
Answers:
Honey anything anyone says about this is only ever 'hear-say'.
Issues like yours that stems from abusive relationships requires the skill and help of a trained medical professional, psychologist or Dr.
Forget about asking questions about that person or his mother, or siblings blah blah blah.... that is pathetic - You've moved on so just leave it and let it go. What value does it have for you to know anything anymore of what that person can do or why his mother, siblings are the way they are.... that's stupid and trivial.
What you should be doing is focusing on you and your children's future. Whats done in the past, stays in the past. Learn to accept that and focus on what's really important in your future. Most people fall apart after leaving an abusive violent relationship, but only those who are strong in mind and spirit continue to make life a success and don't blame the insecurities and weaknesses of others or the situation in which they came from.
Either way you have children who need yu to pull yourself together for their sakes and future. That's best where to turn your focus right now. Leave the past buried, lift your head high and move forward. What ever goes wrong for you from here on in is your doing not anyone else's. Do whatever it takes to keep it together and if you need help, see a Dr and get therapy so you can walk wherever holding your head high. Life is really short and precious, and it should be enjoyed, that's all you can do.
i married a manic depressive. while it may or may not run in families, i am not sure. but ocd and add can accompany a lot of other problems. it may help you to check some of this out on line. just type in OCD and lots of info will come up, including over cleanliness factor. hopefully someone can give you more info
I have heard that people who are abusive or are abused can have OCD i don't know why. I'm glad you got out of the relationship though, but hopefully he won't abuse anyone else.