Depression, 14 year old girl?!


Question: Depression, 14 year old girl?
Well like i said i am 14 and my dad is an alcoholic, he drinks 3 bottles of red wine every night, 2-3 litres of cider every night and occasionly vodka/whisky.., i live with him. my mum is always shouting at me and always saying she is going to leave us with my dad and go kill herself and never comeback. i am overweight so i sometimes get teased because i am fat, i have recently started getting into trouble at school. i feel like the whole world is against me and feel sad, i hide it all behind a smile at school, but always feel miserable inside, i cant get to sleep at night :/, i have tried killing myself twice but it didnt work, i selfharmed and i have also smoked. i am thinking about purposly trying to get hit by a car :/, is this depression and what can i do to help it, dont just say speak to someone, i speak to my friends bbut all they say is i feel really sorry for you , and to be honest that is not what i want to hear i want to be told everything will get better, i also dont really want my mum or dad to find out how i feel, someone please help ? :/

Answers:

wow, you have a lot to deal with , in your mind, emotions and life, don't you?
The positive thing is I think you can see that your parents are wrong. The way they are treating you is wrong. They are both in need of help themselves. Your mom is no role model and you do not have to try to kill yourself or react to your dad the way she does, nor do you have to rely on them to help you, which they apprantly are incapable of helping you . You can still help yourself.
You are getting into trouble at school, for many reasons. One, is that underneath your anger and being overweight, is your pain. Pain for having parents like this, parents you may be embarrassed about, parents you need, who are not there for you, becaue they are not even there for themselves.
Parents you need for love and support , and yet, you have the normal fear of losing what is familiar to them and the hope that they will ever be able to love you the way you need.
LIsten, MANY MANY people , YES, have parents they would be better off without. MANY people have over come and become happy adults, with a lot of empathy. The wellknown example is Oprah.
But there are millions of people with parents who cannot give them what they want and need.
It is up to YOU, not to 'get into trouble' as a way of expressing your anger and pain, (and everyone knows it is very painful), and instead just find some adults worthy of trust and TELL them what is happening in your life and ASK them for the help you need. You keep asking and telling the right people, ones worthy of trust, and someone will help you. Keep asking for what you need and want.
Ask you own angels, sometimes they wait for us to ask.
Now, you can begin to get a better view of how to help yourself. Maybe you would be better living elsewhere. Do you have other healthy family, friends, or even a foster home to live in? Idk
You can contact bbbs.org and get a 'big sister'. You can join positive groups and bring positive people into your life. startstrongteens.org girlsinc.org doublesunrise.com giverespect.org loveisrespect.org
You can find some free therapy, call the local mental health center, or social services anonymously, and ask them what you can do.
You can talk to church and school counselors and ask them what you can do, and if they will support you.
You can take a nutrition class and begin to eat, drink and sleep healthy, with or without your parents.
You can begin to be your own best friend. then you will never be alone, and real friends will look up to you and realize you have something to teach and give to them , as well.
You can do this, because other people have done this.
You can go right now to this site and get a free self help version of a healing method you can begin to use right now. read the manual. eftuniverse.com click on get started free
You can write to these therapists and ask them if they know anyone who will help you for free, eftmastersworldwide.com, maybe they will.
But what you cannot do is give up. That is what your parents did. They gave up on themselves. They did not deal up front with their pain in healthy ways.
You are not your parents. You have to be sure you do not believe the negative messages they send you and each other. That is not who you are.
G-d didn't make you a loser, a fat loser. You are a winner. Now , get going, and find what you need, and forget about 'getting into trouble'. Take your anger and let it power you to the top, use it to get straight A's and lose weight, and work out , and become someone you admire and others can look up to. Be your own best friend, first.
Get going, Never give up. Persistance wins.

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Hey hun,

I have been through what your going through right now.You need professional help, I have tried committing suicide four times, been to hospitals over 10 times.Just keep in mind there are people out there worse off than you.Be positive, and if your in that situation that you dont feel safe, GET PROFESSIONAL HELP!dont wait cause then it could be too late.Life is beautiful, live it to the fullest.

my own experiance



I would get away from them and live elsewhere. They wont change. call social services please.



I really think you should talk to an adult that you trust, a teacher, a counselor at school? The only advice I can tell you is YES, it will get better. I always live on these words ' You can't change the past but you can change your future'. you won't always be at home, so take this time to enjoy your life as a teenager and have fun. Don't worry about your parents situation, I know it's hard not to when you have them so close by but you will be out of there soon and living your own life. As for the overweight issues, you could always go to a dietitian if it's free, some places like the health unit offers it free. You could also use a fitness site that can help you like the 'my fitness pal'. Good luck. *hugs*



Talk to a trusted adult, NOT your mom or dad, like maybe a teacher? or a grandma or grandpa? or aunt or uncle? if you don't feel comfortable doing that, Get a pet, Maybe a dog, a hamster, a bird or a cat? This will give you something to live for - and someone who loves you, and someone who relies on you, and is definitely not against you so it will help you cope, if your mom and dad are like you say, If you have the money then you can get a pet, You could also try to avoid staying at home a lot, like you could sleep over at friends houses, or go over to someones house in the day time and come home at night, and when your home you could do stuff alone like playing on the computer, writing in a journal, watching TV, etc. Please don't commit suicide



My heart goes out to you, Yes it does eventually get better, and what does not kill us only makes us stronger, Try asking a teacher to get you into counceling.and dont make the same mistakes your parents make. It sounds like there is alot of disfunction in your home life and your moms behavior is being passive-aggressive.Do not get into behaviors that will hurt yourself and you may well have depression go through the school system reach out to your teachers please.you may get help and maybe your parents need to know and if they disaprove of you reaching out for help they dont deserve to have a bright intellegent child like you.and please do not reach out to boys to fill the void in your life I did and ended up an unwed mother at 15 but now 30 years later things did get better just had wait and ask the right people for help.honey you are special and loved.



Hello i have tried suicide and yes i have been admitted to a psychiatric ward due to parents and general problems.?f you suggest you must seek a counselor but a councelar who he/she is proffessional in there job who really want to spak to you and understand you ,
Do not attempt suicide the reason for this is that every moment that you live is worth it.
? have been locked in a pychiatric ward for about i think if i remeber a month.
Was some time ago.
There are forums websites hotlines and more for youths such as yourself and your parents wont know unless u want them to.
? had some extra weight too and through diets and ofcourse is possible to lose access weight dont worry about it .
Yes have faith everything will get better.

Anything ? can assist you with here.



is there maybe a friends or relatives house you can stay at for a while? it seems like you just really need a break from this life. if you leave maybe your parents willl realise how much they need you and bring them down to earth. to be honest they sound like two people who just need a break from each other! maybe you and your mum could go away for a weekend? try childline.com. they have a live chat feed with trained therapists, it is completely confidential and will help you a lot just to talk to someone. they also have contacts for young peoples cahritys and hostels, where you could go and stay for a while if things get really bad. remember, you dont need to hide it behind a smile! its good to let it out to someone. find a close friend and just show your TRUE feelings, then maybe theyll realise this is serious. please please please dont kill yourself or self harm!!!!!!!! if you want you can email me to chat, im around the same age. remember there is always hope, and there is at least one person in the world who cares for you...me!!
xxxxxxx



TLDR

grow up then write about depressions



I don't think you're depressed.... just a drama queen.




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